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sunsetslost posted 9/10/2013 21:09 PM

It wasn't as bad as I feared. WW reached out today. Seemed remorseful. I assured her that an A is a deal breaker. She asked about being friends down the line. I said I didn't know yet. That shook her. I told her to stay away from the house when I'm here, not that it's been an issue. She's paying what she owes. I'm being fair. Can't wait to sell the house and divorce the broken idiot. She asked how I was doing and I resisted. I said I'll take care of me and all I can do is pray that she never goes through this. End of conversation. Too passive aggressive?

kg201 posted 9/10/2013 21:50 PM

It's very hard not to be passive aggressive. My WW was pulling the "can we be friends" last night as well. She talks about "still being connected" despite moving on.

One day at a time.

nowiknow23 posted 9/11/2013 07:13 AM

Not at all, sunsets. She has no right to know how you are doing, just as she has no claim to you for friendship or anything else down the line.

I'm so glad you made it through the anniversary and that it wasn't as bad as you thought it might be. I am skeptical that she had remorse - more likely regret, but either way, you held to your boundaries, kept her at arms-length, and most importantly, protected yourself. Well done.

(((((sunsets)))))

SBB posted 9/11/2013 16:27 PM

^^What they said.

Stay strong friend. They all pull this shit.

It is regret, not remorse. The Hoovering is likely to ramp up for while (http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828).

Brace yourself for when she realises you're serious. Try to get as many of your ducks in a line and as much signed before that happens.

sunsetslost posted 9/11/2013 22:40 PM

The ducks are in a line and are flying south with me. I'm done. She wanted out for a while. She chose her path. I'm at peace. I can't and won't be with a person so selfish. I haven't had anxiety or cried in a few days. I've turned into a south east breeze and am banking on an autumn wind. Going home. Nothing but palm trees an opportunity ahead. Apologies to parrotheads out there BTW