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User Topic: Day after anniversary
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It wasn't as bad as I feared. WW reached out today. Seemed remorseful. I assured her that an A is a deal breaker. She asked about being friends down the line. I said I didn't know yet. That shook her. I told her to stay away from the house when I'm here, not that it's been an issue. She's paying what she owes. I'm being fair. Can't wait to sell the house and divorce the broken idiot. She asked how I was doing and I resisted. I said I'll take care of me and all I can do is pray that she never goes through this. End of conversation. Too passive aggressive?


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 780 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
kg201
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's very hard not to be passive aggressive. My WW was pulling the "can we be friends" last night as well. She talks about "still being connected" despite moving on.

One day at a time.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 769 | Registered: Aug 2013
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not at all, sunsets. She has no right to know how you are doing, just as she has no claim to you for friendship or anything else down the line.

I'm so glad you made it through the anniversary and that it wasn't as bad as you thought it might be. I am skeptical that she had remorse - more likely regret, but either way, you held to your boundaries, kept her at arms-length, and most importantly, protected yourself. Well done.

(((((sunsets)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26122 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^What they said.

Stay strong friend. They all pull this shit.

It is regret, not remorse. The Hoovering is likely to ramp up for while (http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828).

Brace yourself for when she realises you're serious. Try to get as many of your ducks in a line and as much signed before that happens.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5652 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ducks are in a line and are flying south with me. I'm done. She wanted out for a while. She chose her path. I'm at peace. I can't and won't be with a person so selfish. I haven't had anxiety or cried in a few days. I've turned into a south east breeze and am banking on an autumn wind. Going home. Nothing but palm trees an opportunity ahead. Apologies to parrotheads out there BTW


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 780 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
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