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sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 3:09 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
It wasn't as bad as I feared. WW reached out today. Seemed remorseful. I assured her that an A is a deal breaker. She asked about being friends down the line. I said I didn't know yet. That shook her. I told her to stay away from the house when I'm here, not that it's been an issue. She's paying what she owes. I'm being fair. Can't wait to sell the house and divorce the broken idiot. She asked how I was doing and I resisted. I said I'll take care of me and all I can do is pray that she never goes through this. End of conversation. Too passive aggressive?
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 3:50 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
It's very hard not to be passive aggressive. My WW was pulling the "can we be friends" last night as well. She talks about "still being connected" despite moving on.
One day at a time.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:13 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Not at all, sunsets. She has no right to know how you are doing, just as she has no claim to you for friendship or anything else down the line.
I'm so glad you made it through the anniversary and that it wasn't as bad as you thought it might be. I am skeptical that she had remorse - more likely regret, but either way, you held to your boundaries, kept her at arms-length, and most importantly, protected yourself. Well done.
(((((sunsets)))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 10:27 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
^^What they said.
Stay strong friend. They all pull this shit.
It is regret, not remorse. The Hoovering is likely to ramp up for while (http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828).
Brace yourself for when she realises you're serious. Try to get as many of your ducks in a line and as much signed before that happens.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 4:40 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013
The ducks are in a line and are flying south with me. I'm done. She wanted out for a while. She chose her path. I'm at peace. I can't and won't be with a person so selfish. I haven't had anxiety or cried in a few days. I've turned into a south east breeze and am banking on an autumn wind. Going home. Nothing but palm trees an opportunity ahead. Apologies to parrotheads out there BTW
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
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