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User Topic: Joint Custody and School Districts
dbellanon
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by dbellanon at 11:07 AM, December 20th (Friday)]


ME: BH, 29
Her: WW, 28
DD: 5
Married 6 Years.
DDay: Early May, 2013
Divorced

Posts: 243 | Registered: May 2013
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our divorce agreement is very open-ended on this question.

But does it have to be so open ended? I know a lot depends upon the laws in the state/province where you live. However in my state, my L was able to add legalese that says that the person with primary physical custody has the final say in decisions. Ask your L about something like that.

But, do you have primary physical custody or do you split 50/50? If you have primary then ask your L to add language that says that DD will go to public school in the district where the primary parent lives.
Another thing to consider is whether you school district offers pre-K and kindergarten. If they do then THAT is where your focus needs to be, not some preschool that your X wants to send DD. You can simply say "No. I am happy with DD's current care."

Finally, educate yourself on all of the school zones in question. Not just elementary but also the middle schools and high school. You want to pick the best school zone, for all 3, that you can afford. Your DD is a young, a toddler? She will not remember who her "friends" were in preschool. So separate that from everything else. Right now, at her age, YOUR support system is more important.

Consult your L and do what makes sense for YOU. If it is "hard" for her", then so be it. She chose the action, she needs to deal with the consequence.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unless the school district that you currently live in right now is absolutely the pits, drug-infested, horrible, stay where you are and do not move yourself or your daughter. Honestly, if your current school district is decent, then don't move.

1. You're going to move away from all of your support in the HOPE that you'll be able to do better.

2. When it comes right down to it, having a parent that is involved with schoolwork and their children is far more important than the difference between a decent and a great school district.

3. Why should you move onto HER turf, and possibly set yourself up to HER getting more time and say in your daughter's life? Especially when SHE made the DECISION to move that far away?

Stand your ground. Make your community your daughter's community.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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dbellanon
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Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No one has primary physical custody. It is 50/50. I tried to sneak a little something into the agreement that said that my address would be considered her primary address for the purpose of school. However, she wasn't happy with that language, and it didn't make it into the final draft of the agreement.


ME: BH, 29
Her: WW, 28
DD: 5
Married 6 Years.
DDay: Early May, 2013
Divorced

Posts: 243 | Registered: May 2013
Topic Posts: 4

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