Going to see a lawyer is a very good idea. For all BS.
This by no means, means that divorce is inevitable, it shows that you are protecting yourself, and gaining knowledge as to the position you might find yourself in, should this all go south.
Knowledge is power.
TT is only adding further trauma to an already devastating situation. He needs to know this.
In the healing library, you'll find "Joseph's Letter", copy it and change it to suit your situation, it's been the catalyst for many a WS to realize that omitting, denying and sidestepping the truth only does more harm.