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User Topic: Progress
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Happy  Posted: 7:25 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got an email from X today following up on progress of settlement, first contact in 2 weeks. Email popped up, no usual stab of pain, it was more like an absence of emotion.

Im claiming progress. NC really is the way forward. I think I see indifference on the horizon

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 759 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.

If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.

Posts: 17068 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress is nice.

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3488 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a visual image of lots of little strings of web attached to me coming from him. It is time consuming but one by one they are easy to break - trying to break them all at once is very difficult.

Every moment you maintain NC is like you're busting down one of those strings. Eventually the web collapses.

I used to think consequences would be my retribution. Turns out it is indifference.

Don't be surprised if you go through some peaks and troughs. I was quite surprised because I thought I was 'done' with that horrid stuff once I went through it once. We seem to go through all of the stages of grief in random order and multiple times.

I am now 18m from DD and I barely recognise the broken, abused, numb person I became during that toxic M nor the angry, humiliated, indignant, hurting, injured person I was in the months afterwards.

I found NC so difficult in the early days - now it is as easy as breathing. I'm still reaching for complete indifference. I don't know that that is 100% possible when I have to share kids with this lower muppet but I'm pretty happy with 99%.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6000 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, Hurts!

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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