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User Topic: Progress
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Happy  Posted: 7:25 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got an email from X today following up on progress of settlement, first contact in 2 weeks. Email popped up, no usual stab of pain, it was more like an absence of emotion.

Im claiming progress. NC really is the way forward. I think I see indifference on the horizon

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 759 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.

If someone keeps stabbing you in the back, then quit handing them the knife.

Posts: 17440 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress is nice.

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a visual image of lots of little strings of web attached to me coming from him. It is time consuming but one by one they are easy to break - trying to break them all at once is very difficult.

Every moment you maintain NC is like you're busting down one of those strings. Eventually the web collapses.

I used to think consequences would be my retribution. Turns out it is indifference.

Don't be surprised if you go through some peaks and troughs. I was quite surprised because I thought I was 'done' with that horrid stuff once I went through it once. We seem to go through all of the stages of grief in random order and multiple times.

I am now 18m from DD and I barely recognise the broken, abused, numb person I became during that toxic M nor the angry, humiliated, indignant, hurting, injured person I was in the months afterwards.

I found NC so difficult in the early days - now it is as easy as breathing. I'm still reaching for complete indifference. I don't know that that is 100% possible when I have to share kids with this lower muppet but I'm pretty happy with 99%.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6008 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, Hurts!

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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