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copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 5:05 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
My WH and I are doing pretty well. He tells me and shows me he loves me. I have one complaint, lately theres been alot of sex without kissing. Many times his excuse is its late at night and hes too lazy to go brush his teeth. I feel very sad. I dont think I have bad breath.... Why dosent he want to kiss me?
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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 5:40 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
..if more kissing is what you want, ask for it..!!
..how much effort is it to brush one's teeth and maybe a little shot of mouthwash before bed.
..tell him that you think you are 'WORTH IT' to brush his teeth and that kissing IS important to you..
..remind him that the kissing is important to real intimacy and 'foreplay' ..building up to the sex part of this relationship.
..he needs to step up and meet your needs here.. it's not just about getting his 'needs' met..
..don't settle for less than what you require from him.
Isn't he supposed to be making ammends for his selfish acts in the past???
..no kissing= no sex.. maybe he'll get this equation.
good luck 
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
Undone1 ( member #37683) posted at 9:04 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
One of the positve thing that has come out of the A is that I tell him what I want sexually! My H is timid and doesn't initiate sex. Now things are so much better for both of us. We openly communicate about our needs. GO FOR IT!!!!
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atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 9:18 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
An emotional intimacy issue for him? Sex without kissing would be less intimate.
FWIW, he should brush his teeth every night to remove the plaque before it forms much more difficult to remove tartar.
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JKL Vikings ( member #32094) posted at 9:22 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
.I am a big fan of and believer in kissing. It's enjoyable, and intimate. There are a number of ways you can be sexual and not necessarily intimate. But kissing IS. You can't kiss any way but up close-up and personal. Most prostitutes or strippers(from what I get from the movies)don't kiss on the lips because it's so personal.
I agree with somanyyears. If Mr. Coping has the energy to have sex with you, he has the energy to brush his teeth and hit the mouthwash
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2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 9:27 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
I'm the BS and I don't want to kiss her. Her and OM made out big time over and over again. She then would come home and do the same with me. Ruined it for me. It's going to take years for me to delete that from my mind.
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
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Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
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