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User Topic: Positive Spinning
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, the last few weeks have been rough, and my self-talk has been downright abusive. I'm turning over a new leaf today and trying to put a positive spin on my negative thoughts. Here's what I have so far:

NO: My life is a mess
YES: My life is in transition

NO: My future is empty
YES: My possibilities are endless

NO: I'm alone
YES: I'm learning to rely on myself

NO: I'm single, AGAIN
YES: I'm free to do whatever I want

NO: I wasn't worthy of his love
YES: He wasn't worthy of MY love

NO: He chose her over me
YES: He chose himself, and if she wants a man like that she's welcome to him!

NO: This is too hard.
YES: This gets a little easier every day.

NO: I can't do this.
YES: I already AM doing this!


That's it so far. Do you guys have any to add to this list? What is your worst self-talk and how do you spin it? I'd love to hear your thoughts!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
kg201
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gypsy, these are really good.

I don't have one to contribute, because right now my thought process is more like, "she sucks!"

I guess the one I have used when my anxiety ramps up is one that my sister told me, which is, " that feeling is just adrenaline in the body. It will pass."


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 803 | Registered: Aug 2013
Phoenix9572
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I loved your list! I may borrow those if you don't mind.

The only think I can think to contribute is:

NO: Our dreams are dead.
YES: This is my chance to dream big!


Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
gypsybird87
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Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix, I love that one! Thanks for responding.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When things feel out of my control -" this too shall pass"

Patience, patience, patience.

I am learning to rely on myself.

I have my health.
My kids are awesome
Onward and upward

Hugs,


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5744 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
npain
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like you list, gypsy!

except in my case it was:

NO:He chose her over me
YES:I abandoned ship after realizing I was on a share d*ck program and she was the only one who was willing to put up with him. She can keep that mess! I deserve better!


S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!

Posts: 515 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this post!

Recently, I heard a song that includes a line "like a bird I sing cause you have given me the most beautiful set of wings".

It was a breakthrough moment for me because I really realized that it's true! I can do anything and go anywhere, It's all up to me- it is the most exquisite feeling! Makes my soul sing when I repeat it to myself




Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
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