By now I am sure I have said enough about my story.
But basically H doesn't want to be M anymore. Isn't seeing OW anymore either. I want my H back and want to R. That apparently isn't possible since he wants D.
I have been 180 for a week and feel a little better. Tonight I was out and he had the kids and brought them home and put them to bed. When I pulled up he was outside getting the dog (which he has been taking care of at his friends house). So I got out of the car and he was playing with the dog and I walked up to the house and said "are you all set in here?" And he said "can we uh" and I said "what's up?" And he said "nothing ya im good". So I went in the house and he left with the dog. That is literally all that was said and I was a bit cold in my tone and demeanor.
Ideally, I want him to wake up and realize he wants his family back. Did I just push him further by being too mean and cold? My mom says I should just be nice.