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By now I am sure I have said enough about my story.

But basically H doesn't want to be M anymore. Isn't seeing OW anymore either. I want my H back and want to R. That apparently isn't possible since he wants D.

I have been 180 for a week and feel a little better. Tonight I was out and he had the kids and brought them home and put them to bed. When I pulled up he was outside getting the dog (which he has been taking care of at his friends house). So I got out of the car and he was playing with the dog and I walked up to the house and said "are you all set in here?" And he said "can we uh" and I said "what's up?" And he said "nothing ya im good". So I went in the house and he left with the dog. That is literally all that was said and I was a bit cold in my tone and demeanor.

Ideally, I want him to wake up and realize he wants his family back. Did I just push him further by being too mean and cold? My mom says I should just be nice.

Have to disagree with Mom on this one. You did just right - let him see you can move on. Might be your best shot at a true reconciliation.

The 180 is a process for getting you in touch with your strengths and your ability to make it on your own. It doesn't matter how your H responds.

I think your interaction was fine. If he wanted more, he needed to ask for it.

It sounds like maybe he was having second thoughts when he was getting the dog. Just maybe though. If so, it sounds like you would love to give reconcilliation a stab.
You might ask him if he would like to talk and see what he says. It is hard to know what to do when they have just "left the building" but still seem like they are looking back.
If the truly wants a divorce, then not much you can do but get on with your life, but if he is having second thoughts, then a talk couldn't hurt.