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PurpleBirch posted 9/11/2013 20:12 PM

I am moving this weekend! So excited!! I found a nice, affordable place that has everything I want (including a dishwasher!). As you can see by all the exclamation marks, I am excited to start this new chapter of my life.

WH is sad today. This is not actually new. Ever since his weird I-hate-our-life-but-love-me-anyway talk, and my subsequent "I'm moving out" talk, he's been sad. He has only now realized that he probably cannot afford to stay in this rental (military housing) and pay child support. He came to my doorway and was, well to be honest it looked like he was trying (and failing) to cry, and said three times: "I don't know how I'm going to do it". As though it's my job to help him figure it out. You should've thought about that before you chose to fuck that slut you work with dude. Not. My. Problem.

He keeps asking about my budget, but unless I have to show him, he's getting crickets on that score. Most of my expenses are kid/daycare related, there isn't much more to play with. Child support would give the boys and I some comfort. Not extravagance, but comfort. I get the feeling he wants to say: "well, you can afford it all, so I don't need to pay". I know it doesn't work like that in real life, but he thinks what he wants. My lawyer appointment can't come soon enough (they were booked til almost the end of the month). 4 days til I'm out of this house/ he's out of my hair.

Eta: he gave me a hug today. I can't remember why the hug, but then he kissed me. I know he would've gone for sex had I not started crying. He said: "I guess I shouldn't do that eh?". My response was: "we're separating". So frickin weird. I guess he's just trying to see what all he can get from me (emotionally, physically, financially).

[This message edited by PurpleBirch at 8:15 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

PurpleRose posted 9/11/2013 20:33 PM

He is Hoovering. Pretty typical when they suddenly realize the BS is actually serious and really done.

I'm sorry it's happening because it really messes with your head, but you are strong and can do this!

NC! And FTG! Your budget is not his business.

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 8:34 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

PurpleBirch posted 9/11/2013 20:50 PM

It does mess with my head

I hadn't cried all week up til today. Most of the time I just laugh in my head at how much of a drama queen he is. Ugh.

I'm kinda worried that he wants to go bankrupt and that because we're married, they'll decide I'm the one to go after. I did call the credit card company as you guys suggested. They couldn't freeze the card like someone said, but I was able to take myself off, and cancel my card (he is the primary). He threatened bankruptcy back in January when he thought I'd try to get him to pay for a lawyer if we separate. I think he thinks that it's his only option what with the debt, rent, and child support he's going to have to pay.

nomistakeaboutit posted 9/11/2013 20:59 PM

Must suck to be him.

Gemini71 posted 9/11/2013 21:08 PM

Why do WSs try to make us feel sorry for them? My WH has commented several times that he's "living in a tiny apartment smaller than our furnished basement." Well too bad. If he hadn't had an A with my BFF, he could be living in said basement. If he'd never cheated with all those CL hoes, he'd be in the whole house.

I think a common trait with WSs is that they're selfish, and don't grasp the idea that their actions have consequences. When reality crashes down on them, they want US to bail them out. Not my job anymore.

StillLivin posted 9/11/2013 22:36 PM

Amen Gemini!

PurpleBirch posted 9/12/2013 06:11 AM

"Must suck to be him"

LMAO! Thanks I needed a good laugh this morning.

whatdoto posted 9/12/2013 08:57 AM

My WH throws himself a pity party every morning. Sulking with teary eyes as he walks out the door to go to work. Sulks when he gets home. Sulks after dinner. Mumbles as he walks away from me about what he might have to "give up" now that I am leaving.

Between the child support, cash settlement and 1/2 of his 401k, that was some pretty expensive pu$$y. He just thought it was free.


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