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We're more than two years out from D-Day and, for the most part, I'm alright. Our M isn't great and we're in limbo, but I'm doing good. Today...not so good. I just have this feeling that if I look I will find something he's doing wrong. I don't know why I feel this way suddenly, but I just do. I've been looking through Facebook and his emails and, so far, nothing. He's at work so I can't check his phone and we don't have online billing (does T-Mobile offer that in Germany?). Our checking account is normal and the computer history is fine. I'll have to look through his car when he gets home. I really, truly do not know why I feel like this. I just have this sense that something is really off and I don't know if it's me just freaking out over nothing, especially since I've found nothing and nothing specific triggered this, or if my gut is telling me something. I don't know the difference between being paranoid and having that gut-feeling. Today sucks ass.

[This message edited by frigidfire86 at 2:10 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]

We have an intuition for a reason. If you feel something is off, it probably is.

Listen to your gut.

If there is nothing going on, you can laugh at yourself, but if there IS something going on, you can be as prepared as possible to deal with it and consider any decisions that may need to be made.

So, T-Mobile online was a bust. It took me a while to translate everything from German to English just to get registered on the site, only to find out (after even more translating) that "my plan does not offer online billing". What a crock. So I guess I'll have to just look through his phone and hope nothing has been deleted...he was caught by keeping everything last time, so he probably learned. Or I have to find some kind of spyware to put on his phone, but the several I tried shortly after D-Day (on different phone) didn't work at all and I wasted money on crap.

Email, facebook, phone, car, storage room, bedroom, dresser...where else do I look?

Can you check his desk at work and if he has one at home?

He's in the army and I can't just pop in to see him whenever, even if he is actually in his office and not running around doing whatever. I also can't check his work emails without his ID card, and even with that I don't know if it can be done from home.