Hard to believe it's been more than six years since I nearly lost everything. Since a series of choices I made nearly had the consequence of destroying the best things that have ever happened to me in my life. My wife. My kids. My life.
Last night Wells asked me if I ever think about what I nearly lost. Truth is I think about it almost daily. Yes, still today. I've said before that a person may be able to become a FWS by doing the work they need to never make those choices again. But there is no such thing as a FBS. Once betrayed, it's betrayal for life. As the one who caused that pain and hurt, I know exactly what I nearly lost, and I am grateful each day that she chooses to remain my wife and to share the journey of life together.
Through all we've been through, my BW has chosen to stay with me. She chose R because she wanted it and believed it was possible. For that gift, I will forever be thankful.
Given two people dedicated to the effort, and especially a WS willing to accept responsiblity for their actions and to do the work necessary to make sure they never happen again, R is possible. And the reward is huge for a WS - to live each day knowing they have been given the ultimate gift. The willingness of someone they cut to the core to try again and to believe in the possibility of the future.