So confused for now
That is awesome. I know a year after Dday. I finally told my WH what I needed. I know it sounds stupid but I explained when I triggered or brought up the EA what I needed was reassurance. Him to hug me or tell me he is sorry, or he loved me.
This was our light bulb moment. He told me he thought when I brought up the past I was looking for an argument and he would immediately get into his passive aggressive stage.
IC for him definitely helped with our communication and with him pulling away when I wanted to talk about it.