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User Topic: Mama Bear Worries...
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS20 is in the military, scheduled to get out in less than a year. Today he calls and tells me they are begging him to re-enlist and are dangling a rather hefty bonus and choice of duty stations. There are even different divisions fighting over who will get him, with each trying to up the ante. He was planning to get out after his enlistment was up, especially after just returning from Afghanistan.

I am proud as a peacock with the strong, honorable young man he has become, and proud that he has risen so high in his commander's esteem that they are begging him to re-enlist (knowing they are under orders to reduce their numbers overall). I have told him as well. Yet with all the unrest in the world the thought of him staying in gives me a very heavy heart. OK, understatement. It scares the crap out if me and I just got over the Afghanistan (right on the Pakistan border) deployment. I will never share my fear with him and will support his choice, but damn it is hard!

He has several meetings next week where he will find out the details of the bidding wars and will decide after that.

My sweet baby boy has grown into an exceptional young man, but I am just as worried about him now as I was when he was a little boy...

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

Posts: 1755 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Please thank him for his service to our country.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

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Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((Phoenix ))))))))

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


All the advice in the world will never help you until you help yourself. ---Fred VanAmburgh

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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix & DS))))

It's hard - even frightening - to see our children all 'grown up' and making these serious decisions. We just have to trust them to live their life in the way that's best for them.

Sending you strength.

((((Phoenix & DS))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): mid-50's
3 DS: 21, 20, 17
M: 26 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 31
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
*NOT* Ready to die - thank you SI

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