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Catwoman posted 9/14/2013 10:39 AM

About six weeks ago, I got a call from the oldest CatKid (she is emancipated in the eyes of the court, but in graduate school) who was at the dentist's office. They were asking for a payment of $1000 before they started some major work. She is still covered by the ex's insurance, so I would be reimbursed for what was covered. I did it (but reminded CatKid that a little notice and planning would go a long way).

The ex did not contribute anything to that day's treatment.

Guess who has likely gotten the check from the insurance company? And of course, guess who will not pay me.

Guess it is too much to ask for him to be decent. And of course, since this was and is voluntary, there is no recourse through the courts. I am investigating whether or not this would be considered fraud on his part and may pursue that angle.

But hell's bells, why? It has been 10 years. I leave him alone. I have had to take him back to court on contempt charges FOUR times because he refuses to pay things like out of pocket medical expenses and he has been found committing fraud with regards to his alimony obligation.

I wish he would evaporate.

Cat

DeadMumWalking posted 9/14/2013 11:16 AM

WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!!!

But you already know that.....

Sending reimbursement mojo your way. But seriously. FTG.

((((Cat))))

Nature_Girl posted 9/14/2013 12:19 PM

WOW! That's a lot of money for him to play around with. What a jerk.

Kajem posted 9/15/2013 14:15 PM

Cat, I swear we married brothers from different mothers.

XH has done this numerous times-all 4 kids are in college - medical/ dental expenses are voluntary at this age in my state.

Would he reimburse Catkid? My XH will reimburse the kid -not me. The kids and I have devised this plan -they tell him they paid for the procedure. And they ask for him to turn the insurance money over to them. It's not always worked, but it has a better chance for reimbursement than him reimbursing me.

It sucks.

Hugs,
K

confused girl posted 9/15/2013 21:15 PM

I'm just waiting for this to somehow turn into your fault with catkid.

Hope I am wrong.

Dark Inertia posted 9/15/2013 21:18 PM

So why didn't she ask her dad for the money? ... or better yet, work for it herself?

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 9:20 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]

Catwoman posted 9/16/2013 04:27 AM

So why didn't she ask her dad for the money? ... or better yet, work for it herself?

From what I understand, she tried calling him first and couldn't reach him. And she is in veterinary school full-time--she does work a few hours a week, but not enough to cover this expense.

Cat

k8la posted 9/16/2013 06:02 AM

Is this something that small claims court would work for?

Holly-Isis posted 9/16/2013 10:39 AM

I guess from here on out she'll have to know that she has to go to him for help...and that will mean planning ahead.

Just because she didn't plan ahead doesn't mean you should be out money.

Catwoman posted 9/16/2013 10:47 AM

Yes, CatKid should have planned ahead. No question. However, it is not her fault her father is deliberately withholding (stealing, actually) the insurance reimbursement.

It will be interesting to see what reasoning he uses for doing this.

Cat

confused girl posted 9/16/2013 20:46 PM

He is just an ass ---- of course, you already know that.