I mean this gently, he should have been in MC in 2007 when you joined SI.
Yes, it should most definitely be a deal breaker. Get your things in order, especially finances, and 180 him - hard.
When people show you who they are, believe them. He has shown you who he is.
You can do this. You deserve better.
[This message edited by travels at 2:59 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]