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User Topic: Limbo Sucks
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Limbo sucks, and I feel like it will never end. I really don't want my marriage to end in divorce. I want us to heal ourselves, but my husband is so wrapped around his guilt and his addiction to her.

I need to find my way out of limbo for myself and my girls, but I don't even know where to start.

Did anyone else suffer through this limbo stage? He's feeling too sorry for himself to be of any use to me, and I just want to start moving past the pain.

BW - 44 - SAHM
WH - 45 - 3 year LTA
Blended family - 2 school aged "ours" children left at home.
DDay (which one?) all in 2013
Reconciling - as best we can

Posts: 204 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Southwest US (Tucson)
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me! I was in limbo for 18 EXCRUCIATING months. It was pure hell. ANY decision is better than no decision at all. I can't tell you what is right for you but I can tell you I agree that limbo sucks.

Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)

Posts: 13354 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a thread in our I Can Relate forum for BS's in Limbo:

It doesn't move as quickly as others but you can get support from members who are in a similar situation, or at least read about others who have been in your shoes. Somehow the "company" makes the limbo a bit more bearable.

As far as getting out - it may feel daunting to think about uprooting overnight - or even in a month. The best advice I've been given is to take very small steps towards your ultimate goal. Whether that means saving money somewhere protected, getting in touch with a lawyer for advice, or just re-learning how to take care of yourself, every little thing can add up to a healthier life after time.

Sending big hugs.

"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux

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