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dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 5:26 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
For the last few weeks ex has been dropping the kids off about 15 minutes earlier than the agreed time and I wish he would stick to the usual time.
He's always so keen to say goodbye to them really quickly as if he has something much more important to do.
I know I might sound petty but I have so much housework to do on a Sunday before my kids get home and those 15 minutes I usually spend having some quiet time after doing my chores. I work on Fridays and Saturdays when they are with their father.
Am I being unreasonable to think this?
Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 6:06 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
The best way to stop him from this habit is to not be at home until the agreed time. Go for a walk or to the park or even to the book store or library and relax there and come home at exactly when he is supposed to drop them off. If he calls you don't tell him where you are, just say you will be home at xx time. Then hang up and do not answer if he calls again. After several weeks of this he will get tired of waiting in your driveway for 15 minutes and plan the drop off better.
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 6:22 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Or just do not answer the door until the appropriate time.
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 6:24 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Thanks Dreamboat I'll do that, I can go for a coffee somewhere and relax there instead. :)
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:10 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Mine does this, too. He's been known to bring them back up to 30 minutes early. He sends them up to the door & they bang on the door & ring the doorbell without ceasing until I open it. When I'm NOT home he has them call me on my cell & demand to know where I am and when I'm coming home.
He tells the kids that he's not allowed to be even one minute late, and if he is that one minute late I'll get him in trouble. He scares the kids with this, and then I'm stuck trying to educate the children about visitation & time schedules and convince them I'm not mad, never was mad, just confused why they are home early and yadda yadda yadda
I tried addressing this with him, then via the lawyers. He doesn't care. All I did was waste money with the lawyer trying to convince him to just show up around the right time.
You're not alone.
Maybe you'll also get this particular trick: he brings them back early or on time, then sits out front & plays with the kids long past when his parenting time is supposed to end. Gets an extra 20 or 30 minutes that way.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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