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User Topic: He just sucks at life
♀ 36060
Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So waffle was fired again. The kids, who between them require all the rehab therapies you can think of, have no health insurance. He has also started taking the kids to OW's house on the weekend. My son asked me why I didn't like OW, since she is such a super nice person and she didn't do anything to me. He is a little young to understand, plus with autism, he wouldn't understand right now anyway.

Waffle thinks I'm a fanatic and should "move on". He said, "I broke up with you. I didn't do anything to them"

Is he serious?? I am so glad that this embarrassment to humanity is no longer my problem. I could cry for my kids being stuck withthis fucking muppet.

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 751 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
♀ 38735
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, I'm so sorry. Are you able to carry them in your insurance?

My dd also says OW is so nice and why can't she come to our house, etc. I finally told her that OW and daddy to some thing to me that weren't very nice and really hurt my feelings. OW will never be my friend, but it's okay for you to be friends with her.

And yes, the Gnat has told me the same thing about only doing this to me and not the kids.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 1268 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: AZ
solus sto
♀ 30989
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Yes, he does suck at life.

Trac-fone pulled the same, "I didn't do anything to the kids!" thing. Riiiiight. That was all on me, and my disproportionately negative reaction to his cheating.

Yup. Total life fail.

BS-me, 55; WX-irrelevant
Divorced after an eternity
"So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tenn

Posts: 15288 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
♀ 38458
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I didn't do anything to the kids!" thing. Riiiiight. That was all on me, and my disproportionately negative reaction to his cheating.

Yup. Total life fail.

Maybe many of us here are actually talking about the same person. Some demon-creature that is able to be in more than one place at a time.

I guess you suck at life by default when you have the type of mindset that allows you to rationalize just about anything.

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 12:32 PM, September 16th (Monday)]

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
♀ 40274
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG. They are all the same, they just have different faces.

Mr. Integrity had kids all day yesterday. They came home, and I made us a nice dinner. My little one, 8, started crying at dinner and wanted to talk about why daddy isn't with us in our family anymore. She wants to know what he did. The older one, 10, got mad and said she doesn't want to talk about it.

I said "This wasn't mommy's choice guys, and I am sad too, but we are a team and we are going to be okay"

The little one wanted to talk. She has been holding it in. COmplaining of stomach aches, headaches, throat hurts, leg hurts, etc. She literally said " I want to let my feelings out" and boy did she.

She cried and said I don't understand if he is the same daddy, is he still my daddy? I can't believe he would want to leave our family. Why? What did he do? He wasn't even there with us on my birthday? I don't understand and I miss having him here. I am lonely without him, and I feel sad all the time about it."

The older one got mad and yelled at me for allowing her sister to talk about something she does not want to talk about. Mr. Integrity happened to call, and she let him have it.

She told him she was mad at him, didn't trust him, he said I love you and she said I know you both love me, but what I don't understand is why wouldn't he want to be with mommy, that all her friends feel so sorry for her, and she told him it was all his fault. And she hung up on him.

But he thinks this is just between him and I. That the kids will adjust, it will be hard, but they are resilient and all will work out in the end.

They just don't get it. When you bust up the marriage, you are busting up the family unit that the kids felt safe, secure and happy in. Instead, they get to have two separate relationships with their parents, and most kids think that really SUCKS.

I will be fine someday, maybe better off. But for what this selfish AHole did to those kdis.... I would like to bash his brains in.....F**Ker!

Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 446 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
♀ 22870
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to every one of you.

I'm so glad that I didn't have kids to Wxh.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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