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User Topic: Stuck...but happy?
Sad in AZ
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DOH!  Posted: 7:28 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My update is not rosy, but I'm plugging along. I'm worried, antsy, nervous, lonely...but happy? Weird...

I'm training for the field rep job at $10/hr. It may have potential, but I'm not entirely convinced that it's not a pyramid scheme I have to pass the training to move into the field, and I'm progressing as quickly as I can; the training is somewhat stop and go. I started last Wednesday, I've put in 20 hours, and I'm almost finished. The company's estimation was that it would take 40-50 hours over the course of 2 weeks, so I'm ahead of the game. I am struggling with parts of it; I think I'm spatially challenged Even if I get through the training, it will take me a few months to work up any speed that would allow me to make more money, and that's provided my manager gives me enough work. It's all an unknown at this point.

I'm still resumeing for other jobs. It's frustrating to find positions that I'd be perfect for but never hear from them. Others contact, interview, then don't get back to me. It's typical. I've only been looking for 3 weeks; my experience is that it takes me 2-3 months to find a permanent job.

My own money is almost gone; the move was more expensive than I thought it would be. My mom gave me a cushion, but that won't last forever. I need some expensive items to make it through the upcoming winter--snow tires, a good winter coat, snow boots (can't knit or sew any of these Well, maybe the coat, but it wouldn't be worth it.)

I'm getting out and doing meetups. I haven't clicked with anyone as a friend yet, but that's not a priority; I like being alone most of the time.

After all of this, I love it here. I feel like this is where I belong, at least for the time being. I used to spend my summers and a big part of winter in this area; I know it pretty well, and I've always loved it. It's peaceful, but there's enough to do if I want to be busy.

So, I'm worried, restless, lonely--and hopeful

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With that attitude good things will come. You're being realistic. Sending tons of mojo for a great job to come along.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20698 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, Sad, your post just kicked my butt to get me out of my pity party slump today.

I think I might be stuck for a while too, having some money and job issues right now, being alone (again) but happy in my house which I made mine (minus my roommate who hopefully is moving out in 4 weeks) but hopeful.

Thanks, you rock!

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1322 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopeful is good.

Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.

Posts: 4918 | Registered: Oct 2007
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love the attitude Sazzy! Mojo that things come together soon.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3640 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping things will settle in little by little Sad.

Me: 44
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

Posts: 25687 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you will be just fine one way or another. This turn in your path may lead you to some unexpected blessings.

I felt much the same way the winter I moved out of the marital home and promptly became unemployed. I was sooo much happier in my new surroundings even with the unemployment hanging over my head

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 9596 | Registered: Apr 2008
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your attitude will make a difference, and things will start happening lady.

As someone else said, you are being realistic.

It's going to come together SAZ. ((HUGS))

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

Posts: 5287 | Registered: Mar 2011
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there!

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9168 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending some mojo for the perfect new job. Hang in there Sad.

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5379 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
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