Topic: Facebook relationship status?
Member # 40225
| Posted: 9:47 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
STBXWW left about 3 weeks ago. She seems to be carrying on woth her friends as if nothing is happening. I want to change my Facebook relationship status so that all our mutual friends see it but I'm not sure it's a good idea. She is unstable bordeline personality disorder and I'm afraid it will send her off. I need the divorce to go reasonably smoothly.
Anyone deal with this before?
Me BH 46
Dday 1: 10/20/2010 -- 3 month physical affair
Dday2: 7/7/2013 -- 3 year emotional affair but I think it was more.
Posts: 83 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Florida
Member # 28571
| Posted: 10:29 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
Have not been through that but it sounds like a good way to generate drama. If you plan to change your status you should explain why as succinctly and neutrally as possible and be prepared for the gossip rounds at the very least. Otherwise if the D is going through soon then if it was me, I'd wait until it was final then change it to Single/Divorced or whatever relationship status they have there now.
"He didn't say "That's weird." He wouldn't have said "That's weird" if a flock of sheep had cycled past playing violins. It wasn't the sort of thing a responsible engineer said." - Good Omens
Posts: 7825 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Member # 26912
| Posted: 10:34 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
You can just change that part of your status blank which is what I did when I split with my XH. I didnt want drama by changing itto single but didnt want to be listed as married when I was no longer in my eyes...
DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 47)
WH (him) - 43 (now 48)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 20)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm
Posts: 807 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Mid Atlantic coast
Member # 34533
| Posted: 11:12 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
I looked at it several different ways. If you have children, tread lightly. I am 22 months out, divorce almost final. About 6 months after d-day I just removed any info about relationship. A few weeks after the divorce is final, I will probably put in as single.
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
Posts: 872 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Member # 38207
| Posted: 12:04 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
When I was divorcing my exH, I just hid my relationship status (changed my privacy settings to 'only me').
Posts: 1354 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39166
| Posted: 12:11 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
I just changed mine to blank...but WS still has his as married. What's with that? He's the one who walked out!
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - Unremorseful passive aggressive blameshifter. Many EA's & at least 1 PA. Dday Aug 2012. Walked out April 2013. Demanded D, now stalling
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him
Posts: 1322 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
Member # 24210
| Posted: 12:25 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
Mine is also blank. My theory is if you are really my "friend" then you know my status. If not, it is really none of your business.
Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.
Posts: 2606 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 40359
| Posted: 2:58 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013|
I have also made mine blank by changing my privacy settings. It is funny because my WH still says married just without "to eyeofthetiger" next to it.
When I did it, I made sure it didnt pop up on anyone's news feed that I changed anything.
Isn't it funny that part of what we worry about is out status on social media?
XWH left 6/2013
Divorce final 7/14/2014
Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013
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