I never thought I would be joining a forum like this, but here I am.
This past Friday my world came crashing down. My h admitted that he has been with someone else.
Our marriage is not the greatest but we just kept on going. We have been married for 20 years, have 2 kids.
This past May, my h decided on visiting his parents out of state. We stayed behind because of school.
He also planned to visit some old High School friends just to catch up.
The week after he came back he asked me out of the blue for a divorce. I couldn't believe it, I mean, our marriage isn't the greatest but a divorce? no way.
He just kept on saying that we should split because we are both unhappy. I asked him flat out if he is seeing someone else. He of course denied it. I believed him.
All through the summer we drifted more and more apart. He didn't really interact with me no more. He was always doing his own little thing.
This past Thursday I was reading a seemingly innocent reply by a female to one of my h posts on one of those social network sites. I don't know what it was but it just made "click". First I brushed it off. Thought maybe I was overreacting,but I couldn't shake that feeling.
So,Friday morning I couldn't hold it in no more and flat out asked him if he is seeing someone else, if he has something going on with "Mary"??? He just looked at me and said " so what if I did"
I got so angry at him and started yelling and screaming. I kept saying over and over, you need to end this..right NOW. On a side note, I was so naive to think that he was just chatting with her online.
As the day went on I found out that " Mary" is one of his High School friends he saw that week in May. Later that night my h spilled the beans and confessed that he spent a night with "Mary" at a motel
What else is there to say...
I called him every single name in the book. I was in complete shock. What did I do to deserve this??? He lied to me all this time, he went behind my back.
All of Friday night seems like a blur to me. I found out that it was "Mary" who asked him to get a divorce, she asked him to move out of state, she kept bugging him over and over to divorce me, she was calling and texting him on a regular basis. And he biggest kicker is... "Mary" is married as well.
I don't know... my h wants to make it right. He called her and ended it, he blocked her #. My h said that it was all a big mistake, he is regretting it... He asked me, if I a willing to work it out, because he is.
Those past 3 days were the most hurtful days in my live. I don't know what to do. I don't want to throw away my marriage, we have kids...
I feel like riding a roller coaster right now. Thanks for listening