I am so sorry you are here, and I am so sorry that you have been hit by this train. It sucks.
That being said, now you need to concentrate on YOU! I am new here, so I don't have great advice to give you like most others here, but I can tell you that the articles in the Healing Library (yellow box on the left) are very helpful, and you need to utilize the 180.
If she has gone to her parents, use this alone time to read and learn. There are lots of things you shouldn't do right now as far as she is concerned, and you really need to make sure you eat, drink water, and sleep. Take a couple of days off of work if you need to.
I am so sorry. Sending good thoughts and hugs your way!
Knowledge is power.
When you begin to get a clearer idea of what your life will be like raising an OC, you'll be able to make an informed decision.
FTR, the bright side is that you know straight up what you're dealing with, and don't have to suffer through years of lies, denial, TT, blameshifting, and abuse.
Still, shocking as hell - I'm sorry.
Be strong for yourself.
Keep posting, we got your back.
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
Just having seen all the crazy stuff WS's do to "get out" or "get away" with what they have done, I wonder how true this is.
In addition know that this is not your fault. This isn't because you couldn't be ther perfect spouse, or because of your looks, or even because she couldn't have a baby with you. This is because she is broken, and needs to figure out why, and fix that.
Do see a lawyer/solicitor ASAP. Do Call your Dr and make an appt for STD testing, and talk about medication for helping you through this, even if it's just something that will help you sleep.
Take care of you. Be easy on yourself. Keep coming here, we will support you. If you have a good friend or close family member let them help you through this.
Your world has been rocked at it's core, and you are gonna need some support to find your feet again.
Get to a lawyer and figure out how to protect yourself in case this child isn't yours. The last thing I think you want to do is have a good chunk of your paycheck going out the window for 18-19 years.