He is delusional. He asked me why I would divorce him. He seemed genuinely shocked. I had to spell it out to him that the multiple affairs and lying had completely destroyed my trust. He told me that he is going to fight for me (now?! You couldn't fight for me the 7 years we were married!) and that he won't sign anything until a judge forces him to. And he said that even after we are divorced that he still is going to try and get me back.
UGH! Any advice from those that have dealt with crazy STBX's?
Listen, my STBXH lied and cheated with the same OW for 5 years!!!! I finally found the courage to end it and he couldn't believe that I would do it either. He vowed to win me back even if we were divorced. He moved out on January 6. Within TWO WEEKS.....he was taking the OW out for lunch!!!! Really? This is how he was going to win me back??!
Action! Not words. Words are easy to say. Action takes a lot of work. My STBXH didn't have it in him for that!
My advice, don't believe a word of his crazy talk. Wait and watch his actions!
Nice to know they think we're such idiots, right?
It is all laughable because not one single time did he do anything to rebuild my trust – nothing to fix the destruction he brought to our family.
I think their response is typical! Cause really – who wouldn’t want to be married to us !?!?! We SI folk rock!
Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
Oh wait, he was "just being a guy", it was "just a joke", they are "just friends". I've heard it all and have been expected to brush it under the carpet while he eats cake. No more - so done!
She wanted it all at the same time.
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
Me "I can forgive you. But that doesn't mean I have to stay married to you."
Y'all are right. Us SIers are wonderful people, and they don't want to let go. Too bad, so sad.