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Mr. McOgerlover emailed: I will be in town 16 Sept 13 for my Dr appointment so if its ok with you I can pick up the rest of my things on 17 Sept 13 and transport them to storage.
I emailed: Saturday, 21 September or Sunday, 22 September works better for me if you aren't busy that day.
Mr. McOgerlover emailed back: Saturday is fine. What time can I come by to pick up my things?
I responded: Anytime after 1000. I need to be done by 1630. If you cannot accomplish everything on that day in that time frame, I am available on 22 Sep any time all day after church. Church gets out for me at 1200.
Mr. McOgerlover, you are welcome on the property to come get your stuff. Only you. Please do not disrespect me in this matter. Thank you.
Mr. McOgerlover: StillLivin I would appreciate it greatly if you would please stop telling me that, thank you.

Seeing as she just moved to AZ from PA this week, I’ve never had reason to tell him this. He has called her in front of me, texted her in front of me, accepted her calls in front of me, told me he loves her in front of me (while telling me it was his daughter or his sister, of course)for the last 3 years of our marriage when I didn't know about the affair, that I felt it very much necessary to gently inform him she is not welcome. I felt it prudent NOT to bluntly blurt out that she is not welcome and that I will have her skank ass arrested for trespassing if she so much as steps a toe on my property line. Never mind the possible ass whooping for all of the disrespect he and his mistress have both shown me.
Hmmmm, do they all say stupid stuff and try to provoke a response.
My response: crickets.
And each time after this weekend that he needs to come get anything I will inform him again in writing that he is not to bring her on my property.
Fortunately, I now will have time to pack his stuff up that he doesn’t get this weekend and put it in boxes. I will politely put it on the curb for any future visits. I will also make it a point to not be there when he comes for his stuff.
I cannot believe this PA crap used to get to me before.
Does anybody know the legal timeframe before his crap is considered abandoned so I can donate it to Good will or toss in the trash?

Oh boy does this ever sound familiar! Idk about how long until it is considered abandoned. You might want to check with your attorney on that one.

I too told the x not to bring his floozy onto the property. I went so far as having a retraining order on her.

I would definitely put the no floozy allowed in writing EVERY time he is coming by to gather his stuff. You also need to tell him that he needs to gather ALL his stuff now. It is very rude of him to have to inconvenience you time and time again when its convenient for him to get his stuff. I would go to my attorney and have a document drawn up to say he has two weeks or a month or some time frame that you are OK with to get all of his stuff and then after that time frame he is no longer legally allowed onto your property or you will have him arrested for trespassing. I would then put the remainder of his stuff int he trash or give it away.

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I'm mind effing him. I will not waste my time doing documents and paying attorneys for something that has to be a law. I think I will ask my attorney though what the abandonment laws are in our county. I will keep letting him think I'm that poor, sad, broken women he left a few weeks ago.
Let him keep thinking that he can inconvenience me. LOL
I will shred his DD 214, his SSN card, his birth certificate, but not a second sooner than when it is legal.
It now amuses me how he thinks he is still holding the strings! He doesn't yet realize I've always had the power. The power to detach, to not give an eff, the power to know my own self worth. He is just too ridiculous!

And, Shrek can have his selfish ass. I'm mind effing her too. Let her think she won "the prize". In the end, he will do the same thing to her, and she will lose. She is nowhere near as strong as I am. Point in case, he's dumped her twice already to come back to wifey. This is her third time taking him back. She put up with calling him only when he "allowed" her too for 3 YEARS so he wouldn't get caught.
He himself told me drunk one time that she isn't that bright and she isn't attractive. He finds her complete adoration entertaining. Again, her low self esteem.
Now, I'm only bothered by the amount of disrespect they both showed me and NOBODY does that.
I took him back once, not because I couldnt' walk away from him. I took him back because I thought he had true remorse and my religious convictions were that I needed to give him a chance. I gave it, he blew it, now he can deal with the ego implode when he thinks he is coming back again after he is done playing house with dumb dumb troll face.....errr meant oger face!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 11:55 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)]