My h is really trying to make it right again. So over the weekend he was helping around the house, taking care of stuff, spending time with the kids, even being in the same room with me. And today he called me from work and left me a message,asking me how my day was going? Not sure why but I feel overwhelmed by his sudden attention. Is it normal to feel like this? I know that he is trying but it's just too much...
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
If R is what you want, be sure to communicate to him that you see the effort he is making, but have been mindf#$%ed so badly that you will not be able to receive it properly for quite some time.
Maybe don't put it that way, but, you know...
If he's worth it, he will be making the effort regardless of your response and will realize that this is a long-term-behavior-overhaul project, not a "But I gave you roses - why aren't you over it??" kind of thing.
I'm really glad he's trying.
Having another baby? oh jeez.. way too much.
He has expressed some dicouragement this week that I'm not "moving forward" fast enough. He feels I'm "stuck" and "dwelling". It was a convo that left me feeling drained, and unsure if reconciliation is really what he wants. It was fleeting in the scheme of things. He's been back to being very loving/thoughtful/kind in the days since.
Neither of us have dealt with this chaos before -- we're both finding moments of frustration and discouragement...and we're trying our best to work through it together.
This entire experience has taken such an emotional toll.
It's awkward and hard. I don't know how I feel most of the time and I'm just angry a lot. We start with a new mc tomorrow. Maybe that will help
