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User Topic: for the ladies: who thinks bald is beautiful?
heartbroken0903
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Cool  Posted: 2:36 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So my XH is balding; has been for as long as I've known him. He hates it because it makes him look "old" (it doesn't). I've seen pictures of him from way before I met him, when he had all his hair---I think he looks better now, and I've told him so.

The guy I dated after divorce was also balding; he shaved his head because of it. I thought he was cute, and same thing as XH: I saw pics of him back in the "hair days" and preferred him without.

My brother has been losing his hair since his early 20s. My mother laments this as though he's disfigured (no offense meant) and thinks it is part of why he has trouble finding a relationship. I say nonsense! I think a lot of women don't really care about hair loss...is this true?

Who else thinks bald is beautiful?


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think bald is better or worse. Some men look better bald and some look better with hair.

But to address your XH's issue, I don't equate bald with looking old. There are way too many bald young guys out there.


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A confident bald man is incredibly handsome to me.


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG JM is bald and I LOVE it! Love it! Makes me crazy, seriously. I love to feel his skin. I love to see... um, never mind.

Let's just say I am in the "Bald is Sexy" camp and leave it at that.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do-but what about bald women? What about them?


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Posts: 1758 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS started to go bald at age 20, actually probably 19. He joined the military and just shaved it all off.
He just looks so bad ass - most girls love it. People touch his head all the time.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trumanshow, since you asked: I was traveling last weekend and in the airport was a GIGANTIC banner advertising the local hospital's cancer treatment center. Featured on the banner, larger than life, was one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. She was bald, not a hair on her head, and she literally had one of the loveliest faces I've ever seen, bright blue eyes, wow. So hell yeah, it goes for the ladies as well!


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*raises hand* H has been bald our entire relationship. In fact, he was bald before he even met me - by choice. I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! As for women, I think it's gorgeous and is the epitome of confidence. If I had a nicer shaped head, I would totally rock a bald cut.


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

X went bald. SO is bald. Totally happy w the look and feel.


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful to me has more to do with the person than the hair or lack of hair.

FWSO is balding and very handsome. I wouldn't want anyone else.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 24749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it. So much better than fighting it. I love it when men go with the full Andre Agassi.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of the men I have been attracted to have been bald - or shaved their heads because they were starting to lose hair. I think it's hot!!


Me: BGF - 33

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You left me here to forget about that
All the things you thought you had have gone
Let that be a lesson to you
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Amber13
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Doesn't bother me at all in fact I like it.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bald is beautiful. What I think is disgusting are men who are bald, or balding, and try to pretend they aren't with either a comb over or some other bad do, or even worse a rug. That is not sexy, and it screams low self esteem.
Now any guy that is balding, if they ask me I will tell them to embrace it, shave it, and be done. My H had a head of gorgeous thick wavy hair when we were kids. His hairline has slowly receded over the past 1/4 century, and in turn his haircuts became shorter, and shorter. He now shaves smooth about every 4 days. I think it is sexy, and hot.

I don't care for the guys who are balding that leave the sides and back, you know the ring around the head thing. Ugh. Really Those ear muffs keeping you warm there?

Bald, shaved smooth heads are sexy.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Grandfather went bald at 19. Growing up he taught us that bald is beautiful. As he used to say, "God made a few perfect heads. The rest he gave hair."

WH also started balding at 19. I love rubbing his head.

I don't think being bald necessarily is what makes him hot, but it doesn't hurt him at all either. I think it's the confidence he has in being bald. It happened so early and he just accepted it.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
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Clarrissa
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IMO, some men can't pull off the bald look. As another poster said, it has to do with head shape.

A few famous bald men I like are Avery Brooks (Capt. Sisko for you Trekkers), Vin Diesel and Patrick Stewart (despite the "earmuffs"). Some men just look better without the hair, whether by choice or nature.


BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really depends. Do3K can pull off the bald look, but he had a goatee (not a nice kept one) when he was bald (also the time of the A), so I don't like him bald. However, Vin Diesel...yeah, he looks good bald


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/34 The kidlets: DS14, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GDM is bald with a small amount of fringe (kept very short). Very nice, and sexy as hell. Even sexier? The kick-ass, very dapper hats (nice ones from an upscale shop) he wears. He does the ball cap thing on weekends, but sports very dressy ones going to and from work. Swoon.


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, yes---comb-overs = blech!

Clarrissa: Avery Brooks, mmmmm, one helluva handsome man. And perfect example of better looking bald than when he had hair. Later seasons of DS9 were much improvement from earlier seasons, hair-wise!

[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 11:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


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Clarrissa
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mo3K, if you like Vin Diesel, you *have* to see Riddick, that's the latest in the series. H and I saw it at the drive-in a couple weeks ago.

heartbrokenn, I agree. Avery Brooks looks much better bald.


BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.


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