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User Topic: You guys were so right!
♀ 39193
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all,

So I posted awhile ago about my struggles with XWH making his facebook page public, and all the happy, sappy, see-how-my-life-rocks posts contained therein. Many of you replied that basically if he's claiming so loudly that it is, then its NOT.

You were so right!!!!

I spent this past weekend visiting with his daughter, who lives 2 hours away from me. She and I are very close and despite his lordly command that we not communicate, we are obviously doing so. She is disgusted with him and told me plenty about his fantasmical new life:

He's gotten fat
He's broke
They suffered miserably through this hot (for Oregon) summer, since their new lovenest doesn't have A/C and they can't afford to get it.
And best of all, even though he's currently housing OW, OW's daughter (19, works part time) the daughters boyfriend (21, unemployed), and OW's son (22, unemployed gamer).... OW is contributing nothing to the household expenses. Nothing. She pays for her "personal expenses" (clothes, makeup, mani-pedis etc), and he pays for absolutely everything else. These are HIS words.

Sad and pathetic that he's burdening his daughter with his complaints, but beyond that.... suck it up, asshole. This is the life you chose for yourself. Enjoy.

Also, his daughter met OW for the first time recently. We had both been dreading that moment but knew it was inevitable. I was extra worried, because what if she liked her??? I didn't need to worry. She described OW as "fake, high-maintenance, and temporary." She was especially put off because when they stopped by, OW was wearing a gallon of makeup, severe dark eyeliner, red lipstick etc, a huge gaudy watch, big dangly earrings, many large (costume jewelry) rings, and a whole row of noisy bangle bracelets. And they were on their way to a FUNERAL for a member of OW's family. Nice. What a class act.

Anyway, just wanted you all to know how right you were, and that I'm feeling much better. I truly do wish him all the happiness that he deserves. It's his fault, not mine, that he doesn't deserve ANY.

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

Posts: 1857 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You mean his fantasy fuckland isn't fun ? No kidding ?

Yep, he's getting what he deserves and we wouldn't want him to have anything less than that, now would we ?
Just wish him well and smile.

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
♀ 39169
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


What an ass. I'm glad you get to witness this sad sack outcome.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

Posts: 984 | Registered: May 2013
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hah! Those unicorn farts aren't so sweet I guess...

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20700 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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♀ 2959
Member # 2959
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Someone please google Union Loop and paste the picture for all to see.

Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.

Posts: 1673 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A funeral? Seriously?

OMG. OWUmpteen dresses like some kind of Goth/Emo teenager - I'm guessing the sad clown is her vintage worn leather handbag?

I was surprised when she turned up to a wedding wearing a black fishnet/velour type outfit. Now I'm wondering WTF does she wear to a funeral??

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6008 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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