A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".
I am not going to even bring up my furkids at all. If he does, I will play the "you know how you said you would do anything to help me heal? Well, I need you to leave us be, and stop asking me to see them."
His pathological deception is so mind-numbing, I feel downright afraid of him. Well beyond just a lack of trust at this point. He risked my life (HIV, things like that), and he risked us all by exposing us to the possibility of some lunatic (aka, jealous husband of one of his Ashley Madison hook ups) tracking him down and enacting violent revenge. That may sound far fetched, but I feel strongly about his disregard for all of us in that process.
I don't want him to come anywhere near us.
Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.