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Hello, so I did it again.I looked at OW facebook page. I have been a good a girl and only looked like 3 times in the past year. Am I the only one who does this??? I feel so stupid for doing this. Because now I am even more pissed. She posted some shit about her kids with some proud mommy moment,and I am like really? Did you think about your kids when they were sleeping next door while you was screwing with my H ? Anyways,it just irritates the fuck out of me how her life seems so fuckin wonderful. I dont know much about facebook,I dont have a page,I use my friends if I wanna look at this witch....but today I just felt like I had to look to believe that this is for real you know? And omg she is so,so much more uglier then 3years ago. I really dont know why I looked at it after this long,is this normal? Propably not,huh? Sorry just needed to vent. Not doing well lately. H is doing everything he can,its me. Its been over 3 years and mostly I am ok,enjoy things but the last couple weeks have been bad,really angry lately......

i can not confirm nor deny that i check out the skankface's FB page and the twitter often. Hers are actually private but her BF is an open book. If I read them I would hate seeing the pretty little picture he paints of their lives together. If he only knew how his gf offered to blow my husband at work. Alas that is if I looked at their pages.

Only being relatively new to this (9 months) I am under the impression that this is normal. I know I'm down to checking the OW FB page about 2-3 times a week which is better than 10/days. So, cut yourself some slack. Sounds to me like you are doing pretty good overall.

3 x in the last year?? I'd say you are doing a-ok, good for you! I still check a couple times a weeks, down from a bizzillon times a day. What makes my checking even dumber is that her page is locked down. All I can see is her profile picture, which I look at over and over and over again.

Until July 31st I would look atleast 3 times a week. Since then I have blocked her on everything and absolutely refuse to look. I am extraordinarily careful to make sure that I don't happen across anything on her other social media sites...which is why I don't have a twitter, tumblr, etc. I don't even want to worry about it.

I agree. I am so very angry that she seems to be living the high life now that she 'got rid' of my WH. She had a courthouse wedding and is married to a guy who "is her best friend" (even though they only knew each other for like 3 or 4 months before getting married) and is taking OC as his own and is proud of it. This guy helped her throughout most of her pregnancy and now she's got this guy to help her take care of the baby (during all of which for me, my WH was in the A). She also posted about getting a job interview for a job "that the starting pay would be more than she has ever made in her life".

I tell myself that she is so horribly angry, ugly, and unhappy inside...but most of the time that doesn't help me feel better.

Even though I haven't looked at even a picture of her since then, I am still outraged at all of the tidbits that I gleaned before I blocked her. I guess I just don't have to worry about having more things to fuel my anger.

Logically I know most people only put the good stuff on FB and for OPs, they make sure to lay it on extra thick because they want to make it appear like they are happy. I just think of her imagining me looking at her stuff and crying about how happy she is and her laughing at the thought. This also helps me not check!

[This message edited by Tired05 at 9:06 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]

Believe me I keep frying to find her on the social networks. When I googled her found images from her account that is now inactive. WH denies ever having her as a friend. I wasn't really into it so I never paid attention until now. So she's a ghost. I know she must be under an alias now so I leave my FB public so the skank can see how my H is dedicated to me and dumped her ass like shit

3x a yr...not too.bad. a lot if.people live fake lives on Facebook. They put out what they want ppl to believe and maybe what they want to believe themselves. My DD16 showed me a twiiter pic of ow and her DD16 flipping the camera off...now THAT is a proud momma moment ow now uses that as her profile pic..what a cool mom.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:21 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)]

I have been a good a girl and only looked like 3 times in the past year.

Wow. If the OW from my situation had a FB, I believe I would have checked it a lot more than that, probably even now, 7 years later! And I would not apologize or call myself bad for it. I actually believe in the statement, "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." Yes, I would enjoy having FB as some window into her life, but she is not on there so I don't have that pleasure.

But nothing she could post would bother me. I would take more pleasure in knowing she is miserable, than that she is happy, but I would not lose sleep over it either way.

People say FB is fake but I don't see it as that way for everyone. I do have a FB page and don't consider it fake even though I choose to only share 99% positive things, and pictures of smiling, happy people, including myself. I don't worry about privacy settings because before I post anything on there, I ask myself: "Is there anybody out there whom I would not want to see this?" If the answer is yes, I don't post it, at all. Because I know others might have a "friend" that gives them access from their site and I also believe that if they want to see our page badly enough, they will find a way.

I secretly have hoped the whore would look at my page (but I don't think she owns a computer and H said she didn't know how to turn them on and has no interest in learning, and I sort of think it is true, but anyway....)

There are no lies on my page even though I have chosen to share more positive aspects of my life, and few negative. The happy smiling people and pictures of occasions and events are all very real.