Me BW Him XSAWH
I have absolute NC with my exH for more than a year. I still hear things through the grapevine but I don't actively seek information. More recently I heard that he and OW2 (crankwhore) broke off their engagement and that he got fired again. He moved to a new state, the state where I was born. In fact, he is living in the incredibly small town I was born in (I mean like 5,000 people small!).
I mentioned it to my brother a few weeks ago and I guess he shared with my mom. I spoke to her last night (just catching up) and she told me that she is still friends with him on FB and has been creeping on him and that his new girlfriend is super ugly. I know this new GF, she is a goth girl that is an old student of his. Not at all surprised they are romantically involved (they probably were before - in fact, if I found out she was another OW I wouldn't be surprised). I just told her "Well mom, he can date whomever he wants. We're not married. You don't need to keep tabs on him." I suggested that she unfriend him and I changed the subject.
I'm just shocked that Mom is keeping tabs on him. Hopefully she'll take my advice, otherwise I'll have to put up a boudnary with her about ex-husband with me. Like I have told other friends who regularly felt the need to update me, "I appreciate that you are concerned for me, but ex and I are no longer married and his actions are no longer my concern. I would appreciate you not discussing this with me."
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid