Most people suggest not to make any big decisions the first 6 months.
Honestly there are so many stages and phases. If you look to the left in the upper corner is a yellow box, look for the healing library and read up! There is so much information.
Sorry you are here. This is a very supportive board, keep posting!
Within this year you figure out what YOU want/need.
If you have a remorseful WH it will be easier and you will know if R is possible.
Make sure the A is in fact over. A lot of times, after dday the A will go underground. Be vigilant.
Take care of YOU.
Hugs. It does get easier - whatever the outcome.
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, pack your shit and get out.
Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.