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ManBearDivorce posted 9/18/2013 23:03 PM

Hello fellow SI'ers!!! It has been a while since I last posted. I sometimes find time to stalk NB forums but I don't write much anymore. Just wanted to come and tell everybody my update! I am a happy camper now.

Got off the bus a few months ago and that totally changed my output on life. That initial hump was the hardest. I say my confidence is back to normal now and I can tell by the way my body language is.

Kids are great. My daughter is growing up fast! She just started pre-k and she is having so much fun! My son is way harder to potty train!! Boys are always harder to train!!! ARH!

Been weight lifting and doing less of running. My knees are bad now and so I have to keep my body motivated by lifting. I think I am satisfied by the way I look. Better then I ever was.

The only problem I still have is I rather communicate to XWW about the kids through text. She insist that we do it over the phone but I get hung up on alot with her when she starts to argue. She thinks that I have no "BALLS" and "WEAK" because I can't face her. Truth be told, I don't even want to have a connection with a POS. Just be glad we have kids together.

Oh and I have to tell you about one of my X-coworker. Let us name him BOB. Basically he was the OM to one of my other coworker's(ADAM) wife. Adam split up with his wife and she went on to live with Bob. Well Bob with his KISA mind thought he could save her from Adam. What he didn't know is that she is cheating on Bob too!!!! LOL He found out a few weeks ago and he is devastated. LOL KARMA IS A BITCH!!!! Too bad he can't start a new life when you quit your job for her. Now you don't even have a job to support yourself. LOLOLOLOLOL Good luck and I hope this can teach him a new lesson.... Don't go F*cking other people's wife.

Well enjoy! It has been 18 months since d-day. Time does really heal the heart. Live on!

click4it posted 9/18/2013 23:29 PM

congrats manbear! You have come out the other side and are going to be just fine. We all are, but in the beginning its hard to see.

very happy for you.

Bluebird26 posted 9/19/2013 05:29 AM

Nice to hear a happy update.

As for what your ex wants with regards to phone calls, the best thing about divorce is that you don't have to do what they want anymore, if texting or emails are your preferred option just use them.

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 5:30 AM, September 19th (Thursday)]

Ann124 posted 9/19/2013 06:38 AM

It is all ways good to hear "happiness" in this forum!!

woundedwidow posted 9/19/2013 08:04 AM

Congratulations! I did have to laugh when you wrote that you got off the bus, and that "that initial hump was the hardest" - was that literal or figurative? LOL!

trumanshow posted 9/19/2013 08:05 AM

That initial hump was the hardest.


Am I the only one who had perverted thoughts with this?

FaithFool posted 9/19/2013 09:08 AM

No ^^^

lieshurt posted 9/19/2013 09:48 AM

Am I the only one who had perverted thoughts with this?

Definitely not.

EvenKeel posted 9/19/2013 12:15 PM

Nope...I re-read that twice too.

As for the communication - I do not talk to Ex much either (like 2-3 times in 4 years). Any corresponding goes through a text. If it is more lengthy than text-acceptable, I will send an email.

She thinks that I have no "BALLS" and "WEAK" because I can't face her.

Ummm - the problem has nothing to do with being weak and not being able to face her. You just have no desire too (but she probably can't admit that to herself).

ManBearDivorce posted 9/19/2013 15:10 PM

I try to explain that we don't need to meet each other for a talk. Every now and then she assumes that I would like to get together with her and the kids for family sakes. I always say no and she gets mad like I won't do it for the kids but in real life I'm not going to put false hope onto my kids head. I act accordingly when I we exchange the kids. I say only the things needed to say and jeep my personal life out of the conversation. I think she wants to fish for some more info on how well I have been. I don't think so! Lol

Chrysalis123 posted 9/19/2013 22:39 PM

That initial hump was the hardest

k94ever posted 9/21/2013 14:07 PM

I'm sooo thankful I wasn't the only one who got a "snork" out of that statement...................

k9

ManBearDivorce posted 9/21/2013 17:28 PM

You guys are always fun here! Thanks guys!

nowiknow23 posted 9/21/2013 20:24 PM

Good to hear from you, ManBear.

thebighurt posted 9/22/2013 16:41 PM

Awww, congrats, MBD. But I'm a bit disappointed to hear this. I was hoping for a mountain retreat that your fellow SIers could rent sometimes! Sounds perfect.

(P.S. Count me among the SI "perverts"!)

ManBearDivorce posted 9/22/2013 18:49 PM

Yeah, nothing big has come up except getting off the bus. My life is just getting better everyday. I can feel that I can truly live like this. Before it was like feeling gloomy everytime I see a couple. Now I smile and enjoy all of my waking hours. I can actually take a nap now! I used to make myself so busy and so distracted I would burn my body out of energy but still chug along because of the anxiety I had. Now its off my shoulders and into a wonderful new life.

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