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RightTrack posted 9/19/2013 00:31 AM

I've got two bucks in on Powerball and I was thinking this tonight. What if I win the megamillions??? It would suddenly be so easy to divorce. Those things that kept me from divorce in the first place ( the need to pay off the credit card, fix the house up for sale, keep the kids in private school) wouldn't be an issue anymore.

I think I'd like to stay, maybe it would be easier to stay, knowing you could leave and be independent any time you wanted.

PinkJeepLady posted 9/19/2013 02:18 AM

I love this question, I think about it all the time! I think I would do things differently maybe? What would we do if money was not a concern?
One thing I would certainly do is donate a big chunk of change to SI as well as my favorite charities. I would maybe spring for a live in MC?! But I think the final decision to go or stay would not involve $ or no $.
I am wishing you good luck with the powerball!

OldCow18 posted 9/19/2013 07:49 AM

If we won the lottery I would definitely do a trial separation. We need to be away from eachother. We don't communicate well. I would like to hope we could work on things and reunite at some point, but right now it's so toxic in our home, but we can't afford for one of us to leave. He left for 4 days last week and it was the most peaceful time I've had in over 3 months. We can't keep paying a motel though.

rachelc posted 9/19/2013 07:50 AM

actually, I think someone did a study and most people - including those not influenced by infidelity - would leave their marriage.
can't remember where I read that though.
Sad.

Kelany posted 9/19/2013 08:09 AM

I would stay. We both love each other very much, we are both working hard to rebuild our marriage. Money is not a reason for me staying in our marriage.

lieshurt posted 9/19/2013 08:15 AM

I don't believe winning the lotto would make a difference. We have plenty of members who a financially well off and they haven't gone anywhere. In my opinion, if somebody wants to leave, they will...no matter what their circumstances may be.

Skye posted 9/19/2013 08:46 AM

For a year or two, but then I'd leave. We have a bit of family emotional turmoil going on and I wouldn't want to add to it. Money can't stop people's emotions.

[This message edited by Skye at 8:47 AM, September 19th (Thursday)]

Ostrich80 posted 9/19/2013 08:56 AM

Omgosh I would SO put this M out of its misery. I have fantasized so many times how it would go down. I would call a moving truck and send his shit to an apt that I rented, then drive to his work and toss him his new keys. Oh yes, this is my biggest hurdle , $$$$. Dammit now I'm wanting to go by lotto tickets!!

mixedintherut posted 9/19/2013 09:05 AM

I would hire the best lawyer and file for divorce. If filing didn't wake his ass up, I am afraid nothing will. WH is still very much so talking to his AP, and at this point, as a stay at home mom, money is a big factor.

BelleStar posted 9/19/2013 09:08 AM

I would be sooo gone in a NY minute! I want out so bad I can taste it.

Gr8Lady posted 9/19/2013 09:14 AM

Ahhhh. The lottery fantasy. Yes we all have that. Jokingly I am waving from the deck of a cruise ship. Reality though if it really happen, would carry immense responsibility to do the right thing for my family. Community too, I wouldn't want my spouse to only be interested in me for the money so that would be complicated. I have to have trust first money or no money.
Maybe the cruise ship and a wave. Bye bye. Lol

FightingBack posted 9/19/2013 09:20 AM

It is so funny that so many of us consider this.

That would be me, standing next to Gr8lLady on the deck of the cruise ship!!

imagoodwitch posted 9/19/2013 09:23 AM

No, I would give him half and say goodbye.

'Cause that's how I roll.

TattoodChinaDoll posted 9/19/2013 09:24 AM

Honestly, I would think about leaving only out of fear. Fear that after all that he did to me for so long, that it would be an easy fix to the worry that he'd do it again. But even though it would be a passing thought, no. I would stay. Because I want to stay. I've always wanted to stay. I've always wanted us. And we are finally getting back to us. I love him with all my heart. I just hate his actions and what they did to me. Though that doesn't mean I'm not pissed the fudge off at him sometimes!

RyeBread posted 9/19/2013 09:28 AM

No, I would give him half and say goodbye.
'Cause that's how I roll.

Ditto!

rachelc posted 9/19/2013 09:36 AM

I would stay...for the same reason I would go to work the next day. I have to see things through and my work isn't done yet.

TrulySad posted 9/19/2013 13:06 PM

I'd protect the money. But I'd stay, no question about it.

I didn't fall in love with him because of money. If we are going to make it, it's going to be because of hard work and love. If we separate, it will be because its what's best.

Rich or poor...

Rebreather posted 9/19/2013 13:28 PM

I'd totally stay together. He'd quit that seconds, I'd work awhile longer and then we'd just play, play, play.

StillLivin posted 9/19/2013 13:53 PM

I would only leave faster and debt free!

WoundedOpus posted 9/19/2013 14:42 PM

It wouldn't change our outcome, we need to divorce, but it would make it so much simpler! I'd hand him his half, wait out our required year, and then we'd go our separate ways.