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RightTrack (original poster member #36976) posted at 6:31 AM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I've got two bucks in on Powerball and I was thinking this tonight. What if I win the megamillions??? It would suddenly be so easy to divorce. Those things that kept me from divorce in the first place ( the need to pay off the credit card, fix the house up for sale, keep the kids in private school) wouldn't be an issue anymore.
I think I'd like to stay, maybe it would be easier to stay, knowing you could leave and be independent any time you wanted.
PinkJeepLady ( member #37575) posted at 8:18 AM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I love this question, I think about it all the time! I think I would do things differently maybe? What would we do if money was not a concern?
One thing I would certainly do is donate a big chunk of change to SI as well as my favorite charities. I would maybe spring for a live in MC?! But I think the final decision to go or stay would not involve $ or no $.
I am wishing you good luck with the powerball!
Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing
OldCow18 ( member #39670) posted at 1:49 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
If we won the lottery I would definitely do a trial separation. We need to be away from eachother. We don't communicate well. I would like to hope we could work on things and reunite at some point, but right now it's so toxic in our home, but we can't afford for one of us to leave. He left for 4 days last week and it was the most peaceful time I've had in over 3 months. We can't keep paying a motel though.
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:50 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
actually, I think someone did a study and most people - including those not influenced by infidelity - would leave their marriage.
can't remember where I read that though.
Sad.
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 2:09 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would stay. We both love each other very much, we are both working hard to rebuild our marriage. Money is not a reason for me staying in our marriage.
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:15 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I don't believe winning the lotto would make a difference. We have plenty of members who a financially well off and they haven't gone anywhere. In my opinion, if somebody wants to leave, they will...no matter what their circumstances may be.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:46 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
For a year or two, but then I'd leave. We have a bit of family emotional turmoil going on and I wouldn't want to add to it. Money can't stop people's emotions.
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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 2:56 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
Omgosh I would SO put this M out of its misery. I have fantasized so many times how it would go down. I would call a moving truck and send his shit to an apt that I rented, then drive to his work and toss him his new keys. Oh yes, this is my biggest hurdle , $$$$. Dammit now I'm wanting to go by lotto tickets!!
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
mixedintherut ( member #40330) posted at 3:05 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would hire the best lawyer and file for divorce. If filing didn't wake his ass up, I am afraid nothing will. WH is still very much so talking to his AP, and at this point, as a stay at home mom, money is a big factor.
DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.
BelleStar ( member #13515) posted at 3:08 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would be sooo gone in a NY minute! I want out so bad I can taste it.
Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 3:14 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
Ahhhh. The lottery fantasy. Yes we all have that. Jokingly I am waving from the deck of a cruise ship. Reality though if it really happen, would carry immense responsibility to do the right thing for my family. Community too, I wouldn't want my spouse to only be interested in me for the money so that would be complicated. I have to have trust first money or no money.
Maybe the cruise ship and a wave. Bye bye. Lol
BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013
friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.
FightingBack ( member #34770) posted at 3:20 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
It is so funny that so many of us consider this.
That would be me, standing next to Gr8lLady on the deck of the cruise ship!!
Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 3:23 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
No, I would give him half and say goodbye.
'Cause that's how I roll.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 3:24 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
Honestly, I would think about leaving only out of fear. Fear that after all that he did to me for so long, that it would be an easy fix to the worry that he'd do it again. But even though it would be a passing thought, no. I would stay. Because I want to stay. I've always wanted to stay. I've always wanted us. And we are finally getting back to us. I love him with all my heart. I just hate his actions and what they did to me. Though that doesn't mean I'm not pissed the fudge off at him sometimes!
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
RyeBread ( member #37437) posted at 3:28 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
No, I would give him half and say goodbye.
'Cause that's how I roll.
Ditto!
Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 3:36 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would stay...for the same reason I would go to work the next day. I have to see things through and my work isn't done yet.
TrulySad ( member #39652) posted at 7:06 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I'd protect the money. But I'd stay, no question about it.
I didn't fall in love with him because of money. If we are going to make it, it's going to be because of hard work and love. If we separate, it will be because its what's best.
Rich or poor...
Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 7:28 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I'd totally stay together. He'd quit that seconds, I'd work awhile longer and then we'd just play, play, play.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:53 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would only leave faster and debt free!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
WoundedOpus ( member #39521) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
It wouldn't change our outcome, we need to divorce, but it would make it so much simpler! I'd hand him his half, wait out our required year, and then we'd go our separate ways.
Me: BW 37
Him: WH 38
(DDay: 2/2008)
13 years, 5 kids...Seven years of Limbo
“I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well." ~ Diane Ackerman
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