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hobbeskat posted 9/19/2013 07:09 AM

I don't know what, but recently, a lot of my anger has gone. I'm still angry at OW, still angry at the affair, but not so much at my WH anymore. He has been fantastic and continues to be, and I realise I do still love him. I think, "What am I going to regret on my death bed? That I didn't spend long enough angry at him, or that I didn't spend long enough showing my love for him?" Thinking of that has helped me, a lot.

I feel pretty good at the moment about things :) Just thought I'd share.

AFrayedKnot posted 9/19/2013 07:18 AM

UKlady posted 9/19/2013 07:26 AM

I'm so glad for you and I think I'm beginning to get there too!

Have had some really good IC which has really helped me focus. I do love to read such hopefulness in this forum.

Thank you for sharing hobbeskat

sinsof thefather posted 9/19/2013 08:17 AM

I'm glad you're feeling good

UndecidedinMA posted 9/19/2013 08:20 AM

That is a huge step. Holding onto the anger only impedes your healing. I know half the time my FWSO didn't even realize I was feeling white hot anger toward him.

I did get flashes of anger for a long time but letting go of the every day all consuming anger felt like a boulder off me.