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hobbeskat (original poster member #38805) posted at 1:09 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I don't know what, but recently, a lot of my anger has gone. I'm still angry at OW, still angry at the affair, but not so much at my WH anymore. He has been fantastic and continues to be, and I realise I do still love him. I think, "What am I going to regret on my death bed? That I didn't spend long enough angry at him, or that I didn't spend long enough showing my love for him?" Thinking of that has helped me, a lot.
I feel pretty good at the moment about things :) Just thought I'd share.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:18 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
UKlady ( member #39058) posted at 1:26 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I'm so glad for you and I think I'm beginning to get there too!
Have had some really good IC which has really helped me focus. I do love to read such hopefulness in this forum.
Thank you for sharing hobbeskat 
Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 2:17 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I'm glad you're feeling good
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
UndecidedinMA ( member #33732) posted at 2:20 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
That is a huge step. Holding onto the anger only impedes your healing. I know half the time my FWSO didn't even realize I was feeling white hot anger toward him.
I did get flashes of anger for a long time but letting go of the every day all consuming anger felt like a boulder off me.
ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R
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