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Exit Wounds posted 9/19/2013 12:11 PM


I JUST got a call from the vice principal. My 14 year old daughter was touched by her scinece teacher TWICE on the butt. There are witnesses...Im shaking.
Police was called.

WHaT do I do?????????????

lynnm1947 posted 9/19/2013 12:15 PM

What context was it in?

EvenKeel posted 9/19/2013 12:18 PM


It is strange (and good) there are witnesses though. Typically creepers are very good at making these situations "it is your word against mine".

Have you spoken to your DD yet? or the police? That should give you info on what your next move will be (ie if DD needs to talk to a counselor, etc).

Geez - this is awful, I am so sorry!!!!

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 9/19/2013 12:21 PM


Try to calm down. You don't want your DD to think she's at fault. Let her know that you are upset, but not with her, because what happened was completely inappropriate. Let her know that you are there for her and will do whatever it takes to make sure she's safe in the future.

Exit Wounds posted 9/19/2013 12:21 PM

This JUST happend!!! I am shaking. He apparantly touched several girls over a period of time. Several girl were touched by that teacher on the butt "touched and grabbed"

I am beside myself

click4it posted 9/19/2013 12:23 PM


Talk with school principal and then make a report with the police - if you have not done so already.

So sorry hun. Not cool at all.

Exit Wounds posted 9/19/2013 12:27 PM

OK so police has already been called. The teacher is "removed from the classroom".
I talked to my DD she is "fine" . I asked if I should come get her she said no, she does't watn to miss classes. SO it sounds like she was "just" touched on her butt and grabbed there.
VP said he will keep in touch and to talk to DD this eve and report any other info she may give.

I moved to this small city away from the big one I lived in b/c this city isblue ribbon school. They are nationally known for being a great school. People move here just for that reason alone (like I did)

So last year my son was beaten very badly, this year my daughter is touched...

WTF is this world coming to ???

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 12:30 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 9/19/2013 12:30 PM


The teacher needs to be removed completely and permanently. Unbelievable.

I'm glad your DD is doing OK with it.

Aubrie posted 9/19/2013 12:31 PM

What context was it in?
Unless her butt spontaneously caught on fire, there is no context acceptable enough to justify his action.

I'm sorry EW.

Maybe I'm overprotective and dramatic, but I'd totally be at the school talking to VP and police.

jo2love posted 9/19/2013 12:31 PM

(((EW & DD)))

Hug your DD. Reassure her that you support her and she did nothing wrong. Speak with VP. File police report and ask about a RO. Make sure the school counselor gives DD any support she needs. Also, let her dr know as a heads up. They don't need to do anything now, but it's good to have it in her chart in case she has issues down the road (ex - if she starts getting frequent stomach pains they could be caused by worrying). Also, consider making an IC appt for her. She may not feel she needs it, but even 1 session may help her.

I am so sorry this happened to her. What a complete jackass. Sending you and DD strength.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:33 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

Exit Wounds posted 9/19/2013 12:32 PM

I first thought that it might have been an accidental touch. You know, she might be on the black board, steps back and he steps forward and aquardly touched her but this is NOT what happend. This happend several times to several students over time w/ witnesses!!!!!!!!!

nowiknow23 posted 9/19/2013 12:36 PM

((((((EW and DD)))))) I'm so very sorry, honey. Seconding every thing jo said.

JanetS posted 9/19/2013 14:51 PM

I too sent my kids to private school to hopefully avoid some of the pitfalls of the public school system. Fortunately they did not experience what your kids did.

BUT, a teacher at this school, while my daughter was there, was arrested for sexual activities with 3 girls over 2 years....girls were in grade 10.

Sadly, he served his term "on weekends"...and he is still teaching, at another school, private boys school????? (this was over a decade ago).

And my nephew, while a student teacher, was charged with sexual exploitation of a 17 year old he tutored (outside of his school job, but still in a position of trust). He got a year in jail (few years ago). I don't believe he's served anytime yet. My info is from the internet (family will not discuss it). He also got a maternity leave substitute job for about a year. He appealed, lost on July. He's still out, I think. He's not been teaching for a couple of years...I "think" that is now not going to happen.

He was married about a year ago, and his wife is expecting a child in March. Will he be in jail then?????

By these two examples, I see teachers getting away with it, even when they go through the legal process.

If there are others, hopefully they will step forward and make it easier for your daughter to stand up to this.

Breathe deep, let your daughter know that you support her all the way. And don't let the school or police try to sweep it under the rug.

RyeBread posted 9/19/2013 15:01 PM

So very sorry this happened to your DD. It's sickening.

VP said he will keep in touch and to talk to DD this eve and report any other info she may give.

If possible you might consider being present when the VP talks to your daughter.

Nature_Girl posted 9/19/2013 16:09 PM

I agree with RyeBread, you should consider being present when your DD is talked to.

Overall your best way to support her is to let her know you unfailingly believe her. She needs to know that there is no context in which it's okay for her to be touched like that.

Exit Wounds posted 9/19/2013 16:20 PM

Yes, several girls have been touched by this monster over the past few weeks (?). Now the girls decided to come foward and report it. He touched several of them and there are witnesses!

I will keep everyone updated.Thanks for all the advice and mojo and prayers.

lynnm1947 posted 9/19/2013 16:26 PM

What context was it in?
Unless her butt spontaneously caught on fire, there is no context acceptable enough to justify his action.

I wasn't saying it was OK, Aubrie. I was trying to elicit more information, like for instance, did he smack her on the butt in a "way to go, girl!" manner? Just trying to understand the context. Again, not saying that would be OK.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 4:26 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]

tushnurse posted 9/19/2013 18:41 PM

You absolutely need to be there for any questions or interview. She is a minor. I would also speak with the other girs parents and ask if they are retaining a lawyer. You should be represented legally while this creep is still on thenloose.

So sorry this happened. (((((EW & DD)))))

NaiveAgain posted 9/19/2013 19:53 PM

I am so sorry that this happened to your DD. Are you able to have open discussions with her about it? She does need to know her boundaries have been broached and it is not okay for anyone to ever touch her without her permission.

When something like this happens though, there is also a strong need for normalcy. Many times children and teenagers start to feel that there is something "wrong" or different, (even when there are others that this happened to) so while she will have to talk with police, try to maintain as much normalcy at home as possible. She still has to do her chores, she still is responsible for her homework, and let her lead on how much to talk about this. Some children will be more traumatized than others, and some will pretty much shake it off. As long as she isn't sweeping it under the rug, allow her to have the lead as far as how much she wants to talk about it but try to keep family routines as normal as possible.


courageous posted 9/19/2013 20:09 PM

Don't make a big deal about it to her. Se might feel a little embarrassed, guilty, or ashamed.

Watch for signs of change in her eating, problems sleeping, easily startled, or other out of ordinary behaviors. If she does some of these things please get her to a counselor.

(((Exitwound))). No one should ever be touched against their will

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