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strawblond30 posted 9/19/2013 12:51 PM

Anyone try a dating site with luck. My ex is on match . I joined just because he did. But to many weirdos.

jo2love posted 9/19/2013 20:04 PM

I'm not on OLD, but 2 of my friends met their husbands on match. It took them a few years to find their Mr. Right.

lostmommy posted 9/19/2013 21:10 PM

I met my current SO on POF. We dated in October for a couple of months but I wasn't ready for him. Now I'm 3 months in and so glad that we gave each other a second chance. It can happen, but you have to be patient and weed through a LOT of phonies.

ruinedandbroken posted 9/19/2013 21:46 PM

My good friend's met her current SO on match.com and he is a really great guy. They are very happy together. :)

Jrazz posted 9/19/2013 22:02 PM

My cousin met her husband on Match several years ago. They are both attractive, successful, respectful, wonderful people. They are expecting their first son in February.

Shockleader posted 9/19/2013 22:59 PM

Yep, met the gal I have been dating for 2 months from OkCupid... I would have never believed it would work, but it has. First date till now has been like magic! Had other dates prior to her from OLD, and I am a believer. Just gotta be careful to weed out the flakes! Give it a fair shot!

Thelastknight posted 9/19/2013 23:40 PM

I have met some great ladies through PoF. I still have them as friends.

Saleschick posted 9/20/2013 00:04 AM

I am on match and have only been on a little over 1 week
Finding guys my age want younger women and most of the men contacting me are either guys older than I am interested in or really young immature guys
That being said I have gotten a lot of "winks" and "likes" on my pictures.
I will give it more time but so far not too impressed yet

Saleschick posted 9/20/2013 00:12 AM

On match I actually sent one unsolicited email to a guy only 15 miles from here.
He had a wonderful profile which I though would be a great match for me (no pun intended)
He has not read the email despite being online so I assume he has a free account which is disappointing

Abbondad posted 9/20/2013 04:54 AM

I met my STBXWW on Jdate ten years ago. We were one of their posted "Success stories."

Way to go, Jdate!

;-)

EvenKeel posted 9/20/2013 09:00 AM

I have dabbled with OLD off and on.

I have not had any horror stories but I investigate anyone I am talking too and block anyone that is 'off'.

Dawnie posted 9/20/2013 09:05 AM

I met my now husband on Chemistry.com... so I have a high opinion of OLD. You have to weed thru the creeps to get to a good one...

In my opinion the sites that you have to pay for usually have higher quality people and have less ones looking for "hook ups"...

Eranda posted 9/20/2013 09:06 AM

I've done it before, but I can tell you that the successes are FAR less common than the unmitigated disasters LOL.

Many- if not most- guys on dating sites are the kind who A) can't be alone for 5 minutes, B) are looking to get laid on the first "date", C) are just out of a marriage/relationship/whatever (like literally, DAYS out) D) have serious issues with neediness OR E) are players and looking to shoot fish in a barrel.

The actual good guys are few and far between. As Walter would say... tread lightly.

Or be like me, and stay the hell away from those places.

little turtle posted 9/20/2013 09:24 AM

I met my SO on OKC. We're getting married next summer.

I don't have any horror stories to share. Most of the guys I met just weren't a match. I'm still in touch with one of them. I started meeting guys from online back in high school so it wasn't a big deal to me to look there again after I got divorced.

Keep your eyes wide open. Usually after the first week or so, things slow down a bit. It seems that these sites let everyone know when a new person has joined and they all send messages right away.

Bebba1171 posted 9/20/2013 09:26 AM

Met my SO through Match. I was not a member, but saw her pic with her dogs and I was smitten.

Googled her name and found the same ID on Pinterest and and finally tracked down her address and wrote her a letter with a pic of myself and my dogs.

She liked my dogs, texted me, and we have been dating ever since!

Didn't cost me a penny!

lonelylost posted 9/20/2013 09:49 AM

I like OKCupid because if you answer their questions it will give you a match percentage, a friend percentage, and an enemy percentage. If the person who contacts you has a very high enemy percentage, you know it's not going to work out, don't waste your time. It also has a section that compares your questions with their's line for line. You can effortlessly weed out creepy people. So don't forget to answer the questions! Also, the site is free...double bonus.

cayc posted 9/20/2013 10:55 AM

I met my SO through OKCupid. Our paths wouldn't have crossed ever without it so from my perspective OLD expanded my dating pool significantly.

But yes it's true. You have to deal with a certain amount of rejection, and dealing with a lot of "meh, not a match" and maybe a few true crazies/liars.

I do think that different locales favor different sites. I don't know why that is, but in one city, one site will be more popular/better for you, but then if you move, you might have to change sites. So don't be afraid to explore more than one site to find your comfort level with how the site itself promotes interaction amongst its members.

Sad in AZ posted 9/20/2013 12:44 PM

Don't look at me...

Saleschick posted 9/21/2013 20:48 PM

Bebba1171: I winked at him now too but again with him being a non paying member not sure if he can view it. I googled his name and found him elsewhere but hate for the guy to think I am a stalker. (LOL)

Bebba1171 posted 9/23/2013 08:00 AM

Saleschick.

I am a sales guy!

You only go around once in life, so I suggest you drop him a line. Us guys have egos so likely we will like the effort you have put in to connect with him.

Go for it! What do you have to lose??