I have been informed that I am required to go on a work trip for my new job for training. It was on a supposed work trip that I met up with my AP for four days. Understandably, this is a huge trigger for my BGF. I am all for her coming along but it's so hard on her because of the huge disruption in her life, job, and business that this causes and I am totally to blame. Going on the trip will be a huge trigger for her in that it is a disruption, it's a work trip, staying in a hotel room, and many, many more triggers. If she stays home, she'll experience even more triggers with me being out of town and her not knowing fully what I'm doing regardless of how often I contact her, text her, call her, etc. I want this to go as smoothly as possible no matter whether she stays or travels with me. Any advice on this?
Also, I need to inform my job of the possibility that she will be traveling, too. This is due to hotel arrangements to accommodate the both of us which I will of course cover the additional cost. But the company, I believe, typically rooms two males in the same room, so I will have to notify them on her coming along to ensure I have a room to ourselves. As anyone else had a similar situation when traveling with the WS/BS during work trips? What did you tell your employer if they are not aware of your affairs history? Any advice for this entire situation would be greatly appreciated.