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User Topic: First Post - Limbo-land
seenow
♀ 40720
Member # 40720
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

4 months since dday. I feel like I should be able to make a decision but I am not even sure what happened to me yet. 4 months. Long and not long. If I were young and without a child I would be gone. I am 45 and been with him 24 years. It's not easy to leave or to stay. DAMN!!!! damn damn damn damn damn.....


ME: BS mid 40's
Him: WH mid 40's
DDay 5/13 5 year LTA, ONS
together 25 yrs
1 kiddo

Posts: 301 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: mountain west
sparklezombie
♀ 40095
Member # 40095
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in the same boat. Leaving sucks and staying sucks. Life sucks.

Hugs


BS: Me
WH: Husband
One daughter - 22 months
Married 11.5 years
2.5 false R's.
Status: Divorcing.
You can't pick up a turd by the clean end. Time to flush the toilet.

Posts: 253 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere on the Eastern Seaboard
LiedtoLucy
♀ 39246
Member # 39246
Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ditto...


LTL

Me: BS
Him: WH
OW=UW or Ugly Whore- cow of WH
UW claims to be pregnant w/ WH baby and I HATE her for it.
DDay: 4/23/13
Together: 14 years
Married: 10 years
Kids: 3 beautiful boys. Ages: 8, 4, & 19 months
Trying to R-Some days are


Posts: 179 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Southeastern U.S.
Morhurt
♀ 40166
Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, I'm sorry. It's so F*ing hard isn't it?
I'm staying (at least for now) but only because of H's actions.

What do your WS's actions say? Are you guys in IC?

I hope you get some clarity.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 960 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
seenow
♀ 40720
Member # 40720
Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His actions now are not as loud as his actions were. Everyone can do something for a minute. I don't trust he has "changed". I have to trust myself and I don't trust I could handle if he did it again. There, right there is the problem.


ME: BS mid 40's
Him: WH mid 40's
DDay 5/13 5 year LTA, ONS
together 25 yrs
1 kiddo

Posts: 301 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: mountain west
undonelife
♀ 38421
Member # 38421
Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto here. 10 months out. I stay for my kids. I hate my life. 30 years invested.


Me: BS 53 Him: WH 51
M: 28 years
DDay 11/25/12 TT 9/9/13
OW:20 yrs younger McOW
Kids: 2 teens

Posts: 190 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Dark Hell
undonelife
♀ 38421
Member # 38421
Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


His actions now are not as loud as his actions were. Everyone can do something for a minute. I don't trust he has "changed". I have to trust myself and I don't trust I could handle if he did it again. There, right there is the pro
blem.

Oh wow. What a good way to put it. Yes. That's how I feel.


Me: BS 53 Him: WH 51
M: 28 years
DDay 11/25/12 TT 9/9/13
OW:20 yrs younger McOW
Kids: 2 teens

Posts: 190 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Dark Hell
InRetrospect
♀ 18641
Member # 18641
Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's how it is for me: if he ever EVER does this shit again, I am gone. Even after 23 years. And he knows that. I have forgiven too much already, if you ask me.

Hang in there, and hugs.


"We two form a multitude!"
...so glad we ditched the skank!!

Posts: 199 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: California
inmisery1
♀ 30905
Member # 30905
Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

6 weeks out from dday. 2nd whore in 3 years. Together for 27 years. I hate his mother fu***** guts.

Posts: 238 | Registered: Jan 2011
mandan66
♂ 40075
Member # 40075
Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ditto also from my end. We are exactly 1 week away from the D being final, and after being fairly composed for the last few months, I'm starting to freak out a little more now. My STBWW is in full out freaking mode.


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
crazynot
♀ 24572
Member # 24572
Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't have the choice to stay - he left in the end and did me a huge favour in doing so. I am happy in my life. I went through years of misery and suspicion with him, a breakdown when he told me he was in love with OW, and really discovered a new me and a new life when he was gone. Never stay because of your age or because of the kids...


Me - 50
Him - 51
DDay 21 March 2009
Divorcing and delighted!

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it.


Posts: 904 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
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