I am also starting year 2. We started R pretty quickly, but soon my FWH got tired of it and R was halted (though he thought we were still in it). We are currently at a crossroads and will either begin R for real or split up.
I am so tired of the rollercoaster and his failure to do the work, that today I feel for the first time like I really don't care what happens next. He will be home some time between tomorrow & the next week, (at his sister's who is undergoing chemo) and after seeing counselor today, I have decided it is in his hands now, and make the choice to be o.k. either way. I'm tired of giving the responsibility for my happiness to someone else, so if he wants to do everything I need to heal in the relationship, I will stay and try. If not, then God has another plan for me, and just for today and just at this moment I am ok with that.