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User Topic: So this is the beginning of year 2..
♀ 37274
Member # 37274
Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still feel much the same. Still angry, still sad, still trigger daily, still good days and bad, good moments and bad, still wonder if it will ever happen again or if someday I will regret staying.

I still think about it daily though I notice periods during the day where I think about something else and completely forget about it...not often but this time last year I thought about it 24/7 so anything is an improvement. I do feel like I'm closer to happy...not there yet but I think I'm on my way.

It's getting better slowly...very slowly.

D-Day Sept. 14/12...R started Dec. 3/12
Together-10 years Married-5 years
Son-13 months (died July 2, 2014)
Son-born Jan. 2015
4 month EA and 4 month EA/PA in 2012 with my "friend"

Posts: 255 | Registered: Oct 2012
♀ 34353
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand. I hit year 2 in August. Its a long process

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

Posts: 1849 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
♀ 30396
Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am into year 4. It does get better. Each year A season has brought less pain. Actually, I have had some health issues lately and it wasn't until I read you note that I realized we are a full month and one half into our A season and I hadn't remembered.

Be patient with yourself. You cannot predict your healing pattern. Take all the time you need to heal. It is a long journey.

Me-54 BS
Him 61-WS
Married 34 yrs, together 37
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1962 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
♀ 39780
Member # 39780
Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am also starting year 2. We started R pretty quickly, but soon my FWH got tired of it and R was halted (though he thought we were still in it). We are currently at a crossroads and will either begin R for real or split up.

I am so tired of the rollercoaster and his failure to do the work, that today I feel for the first time like I really don't care what happens next. He will be home some time between tomorrow & the next week, (at his sister's who is undergoing chemo) and after seeing counselor today, I have decided it is in his hands now, and make the choice to be o.k. either way. I'm tired of giving the responsibility for my happiness to someone else, so if he wants to do everything I need to heal in the relationship, I will stay and try. If not, then God has another plan for me, and just for today and just at this moment I am ok with that.

BS 52
WS 64
OW 34 now - 23-24 when it began
M 16+ together 19
HIS DC: D-33
MINE: 0 -he was too old to have C at 44, but had OC at 57
LTA: EA 1-2yr then 1.5 after pa end
LTA: PA 3.5-4 yrs

Posts: 120 | Registered: Jul 2013
Topic Posts: 4

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