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emotionalgirl posted 9/19/2013 20:07 PM

So today I decided to do a bit of on line snooping since I got my hands on OW full name. Came up with her FB account which is open to public view. WH does not do Facebook. I had never seen her or a picture of her and my curiosity peeked....OMG she is me! Same weight, same hair style, same clothing style you name it. Only differences, she is brunette I am redhead, she smokes I don't and she is 6 yrs older. WTF...I don't know wether to be shocked, horrified, or in a sick way flattered that he picked someone who could almost be my twin to have an EA with.

cuppacoffee posted 9/19/2013 20:29 PM

hugs!


That is how I see the OW too. The husband didn't see it right away but I did.

But remember she is the cheaper version of you. She lacks the class and depth to land a man of her own.

You are the real deal. You are the one that shines.

emotionalgirl posted 9/19/2013 20:40 PM

Thanks cuppa....I didn't think of it that way, and it definitely helps. I was just so shocked I didn't know how to process this. She looks so like me it is scary,we could truly be twins.

cuppacoffee posted 9/19/2013 20:43 PM

the OW wears her hair like me. dyes it the same color I did when I was her age (10 years younger). Treated the husband just the same as I did.

He told me it felt like starting over again.

Morhurt posted 9/20/2013 02:03 AM

My H's OW don't really look like me facial feature wise, but other than that, yup. Same build, same hair etc, but like cuppa said.. Not the same!! I have class and integrity, so do you!

wannabenormal posted 9/20/2013 02:50 AM

I have a friend whose H cheated with her 'twin'. I'm sure the twin wasn't as grumpy and bitchy since she wasn't working, taking care of two kids, putting him through school WHILE wondering where he was at after class.

They have since R'd and are quite happy...I guess he wanted a happier 'her', but didn't realize he was part of the problem at the time.

betraydtwice posted 9/21/2013 02:34 AM

Ya mi ne didn't psychically look like me but reminded me of me in her ways and actions....just a younger version..dumber but younger.

And of course the HAPPY version of me. But of course she didn't have to deal with the asshole...I got that guy

hopingforhappy posted 9/21/2013 13:35 PM

OW was actually more like his mother (a younger version, although she dressed just like his mother did). Creepy.

Amber13 posted 9/21/2013 17:19 PM

I've noticed this aswell although WH wouldn't agree. Same age, same sort of style. She is much tackier though of course.

Amber13 posted 9/21/2013 17:20 PM

Also I wouldn't feel horrified, just "sickly flattered". You are his type of woman, she is just a second class version.

kickboxer posted 9/21/2013 17:35 PM

I also feel like there are similar characteristics between me and 2 (of the 3) OW I've seen pictures of.

We're all about the same age, same length hair, and similar builds. One of them is an old girlfriend from before WH and I met...I found a picture of them together from back then, and couldn't believe the similarities.

In my situation, it looks like he duplicated HER since I met him a full 2 years later. Just another stab wound, honestly.

boom2003 posted 9/21/2013 18:47 PM

His OW was the complete opposite of me- which hurts a lot more than it really should, I suppose. I guess if he really "missed" me so much he would have gone after someone more like me.

lovedmesomehim posted 9/21/2013 19:54 PM

Well, she's hardly me, but she does look very much like a younger version of me.

When we were still in the throes of D Day week(s) he confessed that this was one of the major attractions. She did EVERYTHING sexually, that he was too afraid to ask of me.

Some aspects of this still bother me. A lot.

hexed posted 9/21/2013 20:59 PM

I've said it many times. OW is the 'lite' version of me.

Similar appearance. Similar hobbies but on a smaller scale. A few years younger. Ect Ect Ect.

I think he was trying to go back to before we had major issues. Guess what? 5+ years later...they have major issues.

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