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User Topic: If you went to court... how much does D cost?
Daddo
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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How much did legal fees run?


It's just so sad
But I'm moving on feeling better

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We had 2 years of litigation, and we settled just prior to going to trial. My atty's fees were around 18K for the D. Post-divorce issues (request for restraining order and a custody modification) have since cost me around 6K more. Ugh.

Of course this all varies by situation and by what your atty charges hourly.

If you think you can get things done without going to court, I would definitely try. The more you can agree on outside the courts, the lower your legal fees.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7844 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 2:42 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did not go through court to finish D; we mediated and it wasn't ugly...BUT I think I racked up about $10k in costs.

Do your homework - find someone worth their salt. I way overpaid for pretty much nothing.



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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 4:28 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine was 1500--the amount I was quoted at the first free consult.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2321 | Registered: Jan 2012
crisp
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Custody battle? Small business valuation issue? What are your issues and how reasonable is your STBX?


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Posts: 446 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: NE US
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

custody battle, Court of Appeals, state Supreme Court 20 years ago?

$50,000


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3160 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Merlin
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My divorce ran from September, 2008 through January, 2011. We each spent more than $50,000 when it was all done, including a 2 1/2 day court hearing.

It was ugly, long and expensive because my exW used everything the legal system would allow her to strip me clean. And she did.

Most statistics I have seen say that only a tiny fraction < 5% ever go to court. Seems as though somewhere just short of the courthouse doors, settlements happen.

'Your experience may vary'.


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
scooter72
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

$250 for separation agreement. $350 for uncontested divorce with filing fee included. We fortunately agree on everything and want to go the most inexpensive way as possible


Me-BS 39 and holding
WW- 42
3ds 13,6.5,4.5
2sd 15,14
SS -11
Dday 8-3-13
Separating

Posts: 8 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: NC
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am in nyc and going for custody I am 6 months in and 25000 so far. The judge ordered me to pay all court costs. Even though she gets alimony child support and has a job full time oh and she collects unemployment from our company! Her job is sales and she claims no money ! The system here tries to scare you into not fighting and settling but if I thought my kids would be safe I would but they are not. So I will fight till I can't anymore.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 706 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
hoya96
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My initial divorce was $700 (paid by me) and I used an attorney, but it was uncontested.

My decree MODIFICATION suit that ex served me with in October of last year, resolved in July, cost me $15,000, including a 3 hour hearing in court in December. That was with me playing mainly defense (he was trying to change everything, I wanted to preserve). His court costs would have been higher than that as his lawyer was the one drafting most of the documents and taking the lead in communication.


Me: 40 and fabulous!
3 children ages 10, 12 and 14
Ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man.

Posts: 329 | Registered: Jun 2010
Got2GO
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My marriage to the bum cost $150 in Vegas and to get rid of him cost me about $500!
Just doesn't seem fair, lol!

[This message edited by Got2GO at 6:57 PM, September 21st (Saturday)]


BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!

Posts: 111 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: got2go
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

$150 filing fee for uncontested divorce. We prepared agreement using court-provided forms and state CS guidelines. We will still have a final court hearing, but no additional costs incurred.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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pointmagnet
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I figure mine when all is said and done will be about $9K or so...

But I'll have to pay just under half a million dollars over 12 years to the slut I made a bad mistake with 29 years ago.

Sigh.


Me (BS): 55
Her (WW): 53
Married: Not any more
Children: Three of them
D-Day: 10/07/07; 12/15/12
Status: Trying to move on

Posts: 476 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: USA
Eranda
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

12k for the divorce. Another 12-13k for the custody case.


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Posts: 4238 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
mandan66
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this coming Friday is our final court date; we went through a mediation attorney, so the total came out to about $2800. The mediator was terrible, screwing both us actually. Problem is, once you get started with who use, its too expensive to start all over. So choose wisely!


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
mandan66
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this coming Friday is our final court date; we went through a mediation attorney, so the total came out to about $2800. The mediator was terrible, screwing both us actually. Problem is, once you get started with who use, its too expensive to start all over. So choose wisely!


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

$1,900 for divorce. No kids. He agreed to financial settlement that gave him 60% of marital assets. He then told everyone how I screwed him over in the divorce.

He was so obsessed with his new engagement and planning his wedding (that never happened) that he ignored his divorce. That's hwo he deals with life - ignoring problems until they go away.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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Daddo
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Default  Posted: 3:08 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a big range of outcomes. thanx for sharing


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But I'm moving on feeling better

Posts: 2519 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Cupertino, CA
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