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homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 3:29 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Since this forum is for divorce/separation, I wanted to let all of you in on the most epic separation. I am hoping someone looking for separation advice will see this... It is posted by Karmita on the General forum. The heading is: Update on he doesn't know that I know.
I am hoping that anyone considering separation reads her post first. Her sister helped her hold it all together until she had all the evidence she needed.
Enjoy!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 6:08 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 6:40 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Yesh, thenon-goddess, I agree. I have been sucked in before. I did give her a hug, though, just in case. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 6:56 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
I didn't think it was that unbelievably epic.
Am I that naive? 
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D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 7:00 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
IDK, sparky, but shopping in a sex store with the OW and buying a huge butt plug is pretty amazing.
And, then the day of the big party, smearing shit on the butt plug? I guess it could be considered epic. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 7:06 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
I thought it was epic because the man walks into an empty apt with pages of messages - evidence of the affair.
Plus, she was able to keep her wits about her while with the ow...something I was not able to do once I found out...
The non-goddess might be right, however....
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 8:24 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
I didn't think it was that unbelievably epic.
Am I that naive?
Yeah, the butt plug shopping with the OW was what put it into epic territory for me! I tend to be skeptical because I have been burned several times on message boards (I belonged to a lot of pregnancy/childbirth/toddler boards when I was younger), but who knows - I'm sure stranger/more epic things have happened!
HeartStings ( member #38017) posted at 10:54 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Sounds a little contrived to me (and juvenile), but maybe I'm skeptical about everything these days.
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 1:55 AM on Saturday, September 21st, 2013
I would love to believe that story too--------but nothing has made me laugh so hard as that thread, in a long while.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 1:36 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
I will agree with all of you...keeping the secret, moving all of his shit out, putting up a sign and balloons so he thought he was walking into his own surprise party...I could see that. I kept a the secret and collected evidence for 3 weeks, put all his shit into a storage unit and changed the locks, so that part I could see.
The shopping at the sex shop with OW...yeah, I could see that being a bit over the top. She had me until that point. Maybe it really happened, maybe it didn't. I'm pretty skeptical.
However, that thread had me laughing. 
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 1:50 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
My post won't be epic, but it is how I feel. I personally feel this thread has become sad and unfortunate. If this were my story, I would never post here again. I would see the lack of belief and just disappear. I ask for a safe place to come for support and this is what I get. I realize I am not one of the frequent posters, I have a hard time writing and this is forum just became less safe for me. I find this thread incredibly sad.
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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 2:50 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
homewrecked2011...
Starting a thread to single out a brand new member is very rude and hurtful.
I can only imagine how I would feel if I were pointed out and doubted on a site that was built for support.
The next time you have questions about a members authenticity, please come to a moderator instead.
Thank you.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:56 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 6:53 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
I apologize, I was the first one to express my doubt. I will edit my post accordingly -
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