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Itsgoingtobeok
♂ 37664
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Posted: 10:04 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

My WW received flowers from a om we do business with . My WW had a EA with this OM 6 months ago (I think it was a PA also but she denies any physical contact) .Our R agreement about this OM was she could only speak to him professionally .My WW decided to send the OM a thank you e mail for the flowers ? I told her the e mail should have been " I can not accect these flowers and please do not send me gifts in any manor ".Well we had a argument about it and she said there was nothing wrong with sending a Thank you e mail for the flowers . I'm I off base here ?

BS-(52)
WS-49
married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery

"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty

Posts: 228 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Los Angeles

jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528

Posted: 10:09 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

You aren't off base. She should have refused the flowers. I've done it and the delivery person brought them back to the florist. She needs to strengthen her boundaries. It sounds like he is trying to tip toe back into her life by being Mr. Nice. I suggest a NC letter that states any further contact will result in the police being notified.

Posts: 49515 | Registered: Mar 2011

AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622

Posted: 11:25 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

^^^i second that. All of our NC letters stated that any contact would be considered a threat and treated accordingly.

BS 42
fWS 38 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DsD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2859 | Registered: Aug 2012

Morhurt
♀ 40166
Member # 40166

Posted: 11:34 AM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

Totally unacceptable. Totally.
I'm livid for you.

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada

Searchingforhope
♀ 38437
Member # 38437

Posted: 1:24 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

You are not off base.

I agree with the others.

Sorry for your pain...

Strength to you.

Me: BW 51 at the time(didn't have a clue)
Him: FWH 54 at the time(extremely remorseful about his stupid midlife crisis)
Married 27 yrs at the time
DDAY 04/25/12
Working on R
PA Lasted 2 weeks. OW totally screwed up $@#%.

Posts: 264 | Registered: Feb 2013

SuperDuperWonderboy
♂ 34716
Member # 34716

Posted: 1:32 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

Not off base. This is a bullshit move. Sending flowers? WTF?

If your wife doesn't see a problem with receiving flowers from another man trying to insert himself into your marriage, then she is most likely still in the fog, and totally not getting it.

I agree with the others. Nothing professional about sending flowers to a member of the opposite sex. Totally unacceptable. I am pissed for you.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

Posts: 1356 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett

Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817

Posted: 1:32 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013

What they said.

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 7991 | Registered: Jan 2011

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