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Itsgoingtobeok (original poster member #37664) posted at 4:04 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
My WW received flowers from a om we do business with . My WW had a EA with this OM 6 months ago (I think it was a PA also but she denies any physical contact) .Our R agreement about this OM was she could only speak to him professionally .My WW decided to send the OM a thank you e mail for the flowers ? I told her the e mail should have been " I can not accect these flowers and please do not send me gifts in any manor ".Well we had a argument about it and she said there was nothing wrong with sending a Thank you e mail for the flowers . I'm I off base here ?
BS-(52)
WS-49
married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery
"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:09 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
You aren't off base. She should have refused the flowers. I've done it and the delivery person brought them back to the florist. She needs to strengthen her boundaries. It sounds like he is trying to tip toe back into her life by being Mr. Nice. I suggest a NC letter that states any further contact will result in the police being notified.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 5:25 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
^^^i second that. All of our NC letters stated that any contact would be considered a threat and treated accordingly.
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Morhurt ( member #40166) posted at 5:34 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Totally unacceptable. Totally.
I'm livid for you.
Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Searchingforhope ( member #38437) posted at 7:24 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
You are not off base.
I agree with the others.
Sorry for your pain...
Strength to you.
Me: BW 51 at the time(didn't have a clue)
Him: FWH 54 at the time(extremely remorseful about his stupid midlife crisis)
Married 27 yrs at the time
DDAY 04/25/12
Working on R
PA Lasted 2 weeks. OW totally screwed up $@#%.
SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716) posted at 7:32 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Not off base. This is a bullshit move. Sending flowers? WTF?
If your wife doesn't see a problem with receiving flowers from another man trying to insert himself into your marriage, then she is most likely still in the fog, and totally not getting it.
I agree with the others. Nothing professional about sending flowers to a member of the opposite sex. Totally unacceptable. I am pissed for you.
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 7:32 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
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