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Itsgoingtobeok posted 9/20/2013 10:04 AM

My WW received flowers from a om we do business with . My WW had a EA with this OM 6 months ago (I think it was a PA also but she denies any physical contact) .Our R agreement about this OM was she could only speak to him professionally .My WW decided to send the OM a thank you e mail for the flowers ? I told her the e mail should have been " I can not accect these flowers and please do not send me gifts in any manor ".Well we had a argument about it and she said there was nothing wrong with sending a Thank you e mail for the flowers . I'm I off base here ?

jo2love posted 9/20/2013 10:09 AM

You aren't off base. She should have refused the flowers. I've done it and the delivery person brought them back to the florist. She needs to strengthen her boundaries. It sounds like he is trying to tip toe back into her life by being Mr. Nice. I suggest a NC letter that states any further contact will result in the police being notified.

AFrayedKnot posted 9/20/2013 11:25 AM

^^^i second that. All of our NC letters stated that any contact would be considered a threat and treated accordingly.

Morhurt posted 9/20/2013 11:34 AM

Totally unacceptable. Totally.
I'm livid for you.

Searchingforhope posted 9/20/2013 13:24 PM

You are not off base.

I agree with the others.

Sorry for your pain...

Strength to you.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 9/20/2013 13:32 PM

Not off base. This is a bullshit move. Sending flowers? WTF?

If your wife doesn't see a problem with receiving flowers from another man trying to insert himself into your marriage, then she is most likely still in the fog, and totally not getting it.

I agree with the others. Nothing professional about sending flowers to a member of the opposite sex. Totally unacceptable. I am pissed for you.

Rebreather posted 9/20/2013 13:32 PM

What they said.