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surprise posted 9/20/2013 15:34 PM

I have been trying so hard to not speak to her unless it was about my kids but she constantly phoned and after ignoring it several times I answered. she just wanted to see how I'm doing again!!!!
I was polite but blunt and ended the conversation but she sent me an email saying we have to be civil.
I shouldn't have replied but said "I'm not hurting I just dont want to speak to you ATM because I'm struggling not to tell you what sort of person you are".
Grr she's happy with her new guy so why cant she just leave me in peace.

surprise posted 9/20/2013 15:47 PM

Never mind she sent another and I replied telling her exactly what I thought and used every four letter word I could think of.
Damn I'm weak

Phoenix1 posted 9/20/2013 16:04 PM

I know you have read this before, but it ends when you say it ends.

NC = No New Hurts

Repeat until it sticks...

Don't let her keep sucking you into her toxic vortex.

((surprise))

Eyeofthetiger posted 9/20/2013 16:16 PM

Why must they continue to stab the knife? My H just picked up our kids and was clearly flirting and acting like a friend. I looked at him an said "we can't pretend to be friends". He got mad and now I am wondering and hurting as to why he is mad at me.

Just jump back on the NC and you'll feel better by the end of the weekend. GL

kg201 posted 9/20/2013 16:25 PM

They are angry with us because we can't/won't play into their fantasy of having both people stroke their egos. How could we possibly be so mean as to say, "I don't want to be your friend." How could we possibly burn our bridges like that?

surprise posted 9/20/2013 16:38 PM

Sigh breath!
im not going to reply to her this time, just leave it until Sunday when I get to speak to my kids again.
Now wheres those rubber bands

Titanium posted 9/20/2013 17:34 PM

Me too.......i have parasite WH blocked in my phone. Hadnt checked for 2 weeks and looked the other night.

There was a nice message saying just want to say hello and hope wer well and wants to catch up with our our son this weekend.

Our son who is 18 doesnt want to speak to him due to what he has done to me and also after i kicked him out 3 months ago he looked up OW fed her bs and they now hanging out together AGAIN.

Everything is my fault. He did nothing wrong. I kicked him out for no reason apparently. He was upset and lonely and me kicking him out afyer no remorse and false r was unfair....according to him.

Whats unfair? Running back to her, shrugging all responsibilities. Leaving me to sell the house, empty it out, getting rid of all,of his shit and living on a dime?

He has a fulltime job, low rent,ma bed buddy, fancy ute, harley.......etc etc

I am so hurt and angry and he says he is broke and wants 50%.

Just disgarded me, us. Our son has autism and is so confused. Saw the physical abuse, heard it all.

But WH maintains its all my fault.

So i responded to his text with a phone call. Couldnt help myself.....off loaded, gave him a mouthful....

He calls me a filthy name and hangs up......thats ok, i did feel better but also saw that he is delusional, he will always only see it the fucked way that he see's it. He has made his bed.

He needs to grow up. The house settles this tuesday and he thinks he will be on easy street financially but he is in for a shock.

He is NPD amongst other things so i probably shouldnt have called him but its done now.

I did send one last message to never contact me ever again. I wont check my blocker anymore and when settlement is done and i dont need his texts for anything i will change my number. Because my son is 18 i dont have the custody issue which must be so very difficult for you with all this crap.

So on that note dont beat yourself up about broken nc......its hard to control sometimes but lets get back on the nc train and relax a little and read a good book.

Misery loves company and we have better things to do.......!

Keep moving forward little by little.

((((Hugs)))))


Housefulloflove posted 9/20/2013 18:56 PM

They are angry with us because we can't/won't play into their fantasy of having both people stroke their egos. How could we possibly be so mean as to say, "I don't want to be your friend." How could we possibly burn our bridges like that?

This right here. The night before our divorce hearing included him texting me about how our divorce had nothing to do with his cheating (because he knows better than me of course), listed the ways I wronged him, accused me of having a lack of integrity for being suspicious of his relationship with OW before he had sex with her...and blah blah blah more of the same illogical bullshit.

Then immediately after the lack of integrity statement he says "we need to be cordial and friendly." Literally it was the next sentence.

But in my ex's mind, I am just being bitter and hurting myself by turning down his offer for friendship.

Gajit posted 9/20/2013 19:02 PM

FTG! He is blameshifting. It will get better. I am learning this!

Keep your head high and keep moving forward! Hugs to you!

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