This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
Is it something WSs should do?
I dunno man. This is kind of a quick-sandy area and of course depends on the sitch.
I'm sure there are those that would say, "Well duh you stayed Aub. You had zero escape." And I think some people in my position would stay strictly for financial security. That actually wasn't a factor for me. All I knew was I needed to get healthy and stop fucking my husband over.
If a WS has a plan and exit strategy "should things not work", it just kinda smacks of foot out the door. And wasn't that kind of what our As were? One foot in the marriage, the other out the door.
Then again, if a BS and WS have their own financial security and money's not an issue, then finances can't be an "excuse" for either individual to be swayed for R.
So again, I guess it depends on the couple and the situation.
Also, I've never technically been alone. Went straight from my parents home to my husbands. For a long time, I didn't think that I could ever be alone. But then life kicked in and my husband started working away from home more and more. Less hours here with us. And there are alot of times, I'm alone. Previously, that terrified me. But now, I'm ok with it. And I've found, even in the deafening silence, I'm ok.
That deafening silence is both a blessing and a curse. A blessing because in those quiet times, I've done my deepest soul searching. A curse because I want to share my life with QS and he's not here. Should life lead us to the "Alone Path", I know that I could walk it.
I understand that being married to a workaholic isn't exactly the same as literally being alone. But there are days I think it's close enough.
Dunno if that answers the question. I'm kind of rambly.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne