Abbondad, I am so sorry to hear that about your kids.
I totally agree with you. I will never forgive Mr. Integrity for doing this to our kids.
Mine were also so happy, so safe, so secure, they were the priority, they had a good happy life, two loving parents, friends, neighbors, all of it.
Now out of nowhere, we come home from vacation and Daddy is talking about how "he is always going to love them no matter what" and then he is telling them there may be a divorce. They knew we had a fight, that daddy did something wrong and now he doesn't live here anymore. But why, why why they ask? They are mad sometimes, mad at me, mad at him, sad, my little one has acid reflux, stomach ache, head aches, you name it. She cries every day at least once.
And I really don't like it when people say, oh they are resilient, they will be fine, they will adjust. I am sorry, but the kids are the real losers in this situation. all of these kids.
Yes, I F**Ing know that time will heal these wounds...but it is not fair to them. This is not what they signed up for. This is not what I wanted for them. He didn't even try. He takes no responsibility. Can not understand the impact. Trys to blame it all on me.
I am sad that someday when they are grown ups I will have to tell them that "No, Your Father never told me there was a problem, He never tried to work on our marriage, and he just took the cowardly path by cheating, found someone else and it was just easier to slink off in the night with this freak he met online and then acted like it was no big deal and we should just get over it" yeah, they will probably figure out what an idiot he is on their own before I have to tell them anything.
BUT, despite my tangent above, I do agree with you. I will never forgive him for hurting these beautiful kids!