"Better not give in to it. It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.”
Make yourself a list of what you need to have happen in order to attempt R. That way when you ask the million dollar question, WS knows what he's getting into. Also be prepared for the answer to not be what you expect, or for WS to say "I'd like to R, but I can't do A B and C." A NC letter to AP and changing phone #s seems to be a common requirement, and its really not that much to ask of WS.
Keep in mind that you are entitled to change the list anytime you see fit. I made a R requirements list for my STBXH. However, I later learned about another PA, this one with my BFF. It was a deal breaker.
R is a gift you can choose to give...or not.
― Suzanne Collins, Mockingjay
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013