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noprincess posted 9/21/2013 09:08 AM

So it was 1 year DDay antiversary this week and I've been dealing with all that that entails. I think I've held up rather well, considering.

Then my amazing son, 20, brings me home a beautiful bouquet of flowers. He hands them to me and looks at me deeply in the eyes and tells me he loves me and hugs me so tight.

Part of me cannot believe he remembered, part of me is sure he will never forget. The OW and my son attended the same college. She outed herself and the A to him. She walked right up to him on campus and told him that she was my Hs girlfriend, among other things. Of course he was devastated.

When he gave me the flowers I had to go outside...I just wept, kind of hysterically. I'll never forgive the OW or my H for putting my son in that position, to making him a pawn in their wretched A. I hate that this is part of our history now. But I know this...I have the most amazing son, who will forever be quietly at my side. Despite all the devastation - I am truly blessed.

Hope you don't mind me sharing this will all of you.

confused615 posted 9/21/2013 09:17 AM

Your son sounds like a kind,compassionate, thoughtful young man. A son any mother would be proud to call her own.

(((((noprincess and DS)))))

njgal480 posted 9/21/2013 09:38 AM

You have raised an amazing young man!
So compassionate and kind.

You must be so proud of him.

It is a shame that your children were dragged through this mess too.
(My DD and DS were both in their early 20's when they found out about the LTA so I know how that goes).

But, it sounds as if he came out of it OK and will be a source of support for you.

agreensleeve posted 9/21/2013 10:47 AM

My eyes are misting up as read your post. You have raised a compassionate and understanding son. Don't think of the flowers as antiversarry flowers, but as my son loves and cares for me flowers. Now the tears are fall down my cheeks.

MylarPineapples posted 9/21/2013 10:50 AM

Wow, I would have cried too! You have raised a very thoughtful and compassionate young man. (((hugs)))

jjsr posted 9/21/2013 12:18 PM

I love your son. What a wonderful young man

catlover50 posted 9/21/2013 12:26 PM

You should be very proud.

Williesmom posted 9/21/2013 12:53 PM

I love that gesture. Your son rocks.

jo2love posted 9/21/2013 13:24 PM

(((noprincess & son)))

I'm sorry you and son are going through this. He sounds like a wonderful, caring young man.

Amber13 posted 9/21/2013 17:29 PM

Oh wow. What a gentleman. Well done on raising a star.

surviving1963 posted 9/21/2013 18:37 PM

Brought tears to my eyes. You have an amazing son to be proud of

AML04 posted 9/21/2013 18:39 PM

What an amazing young man. I hope I can raise my son to be that caring.

RidingHealingRd posted 9/21/2013 18:55 PM

You have an amazing son, you should be so proud. I want to hug him.

I am so sorry for the devastation that the A brought into your son's life. I can completely understand. My 20 yr old learned of my WH A before I did and was instructed to hide that dirty little secret. He struggles with that but fortunately IC helped.

Stories about such thoughtful, sweet children make me smile. Thanks for sharing. You obviously did a wonderful job parenting this young man.

Glad you held up well on that understandably difficult day.