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User Topic: Great start to IC!
♀ 40133
Member # 40133
Content  Posted: 5:47 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling really optimistic because I finally started IC, and I had two great sessions this week! 1DH also started IC. Since I started, we haven't faught at all! I've been able to control my anger and overwhelming sadness, and turn it into positive, constructive conversations with 1DH.

I really hope this feeling lasts! I really want our marriage to work. I know that he has to work just as hard, but I'm hoping he's taking a step in the right direction with IC as well so that we both have the tools to heal!

Me (BW): 34
SAFWH (1DumbHusband): 37
Married 7 years with 2 beautiful kiddos
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013

Too many freaking TTs that nearly cost us our marriage; currently in reconciliation.

"Love isn't a feeling, it's a decision."

Posts: 323 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
♀ 33867
Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is great that you found an IC that you are comfortable with. I was so fortunate to find one...without her wisdom I probably would have jumped ship in those early days. We are entering year 4 next month and life is so much better.

Continued success in IC and R.

ME: 57 BS
HIM: 64 WH
Married: 32 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 6 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2439 | Registered: Nov 2011
♀ 40605
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you are having a good beginning with your IC! I hope it helps both you and your husband as you begin your work in healing.

Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every day

Posts: 698 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS 42
fWS 38 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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