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User Topic: AP pocket dialed him leaving conference
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And just so its allllll out there....here's another tidbit. When he got home from golf - (he was golfing with his dad and two others) he came to the room where I was in a state from going through his emails and his phone rings. He grabs it at the end but its gone to v-mail. He looks upset. Like he cannot believe it. He checks v-mail and then hands the phone to me and says, "listen LA, she just pocket-dialed me". I listened to the message and you can hear her talking. I listen again.

Quite a coincidence that she pocket dials him as she is leaving the conference don't you think? A parting shot maybe? And why does she still have you on speed dial I ask?

Three days later (being today) this still bothers me. He tells me what he would like to write and send and he does:

"I received a call from you. It appeared to be a pocket dial. If this was an accident by hitting speed dial my # needs to be removed."

She wrote back that she has done that and has "no intention of talking w u."

Good riddance.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2590 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
HardenMyHeart
♂ 15902
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry this happened to you. That sucks.

About 5 years after D-day, OM sent me an email saying he was starting a new business and wanted me to like his business on Facebook. That really cracked me up.

I should add that the OM does not know that I know about their affair.


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5711 | Registered: Aug 2007
blakesteele
♂ 38044
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

....are no coincidences. Again, job well done Mr. LA44.

It appears Mr. LA44 is NOT like the WS I spoke of earlier.

Just because I don't think there are any coincidences...I still think much of this sucks. And her actions of late suck! Butt dials only happen if he is on her recent call list or in her address list. Not sure of their professional relationship...but I would suggest if cell phone numbers are not needed between the two of them that he should block her number. Ideally, she should remove him from her address book...but if they have to interact professionally, that is not a realistic option.

God be with you both.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Scubachick
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! What are the odds? What timing too. Was she talking about you guys? I was going through a company phone to see if my husband used it to call the OW and I accidentally called her at 4 am I hung up....opps!

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jul 2013
RockyMtn
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really hate to say this, but I'm going to for honesty's sake...

When I pocket dial people, it is almost always because they are on my recent calls list. It usually calls the last person I intentionally called. Not because of speed dial. I know this is the case for a lot of people. You don't think she tried to call him or vice versa during golfing, do you?

On the other hand, your WH told you right away - which he wouldn't have (unless he is crazy manipulative) if he had already been calling her.


Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

Posts: 667 | Registered: Oct 2012
PamJ
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<<So sorry this happened to you. That sucks.
About 5 years after D-day, OM sent me an email saying he was starting a new business and wanted me to like his business on Facebook. That really cracked me up.

I should add that the OM does not know that I know about their affair.>>

OK, I have no idea WHY the OM doesn't know that YOU know about the A, but, I think, this would be a perfect time to MAKE him aware.

He will be shocked that karma has come around and that his bad actions of the past are still out there zooming around waiting to land on him.

If I were you,I would be happy to tell him why you are not 'liking' his new business. But, then again, it would not still be a mystery to him, if it were me.


Me: BS 50+
Him: WH 60

3 EAs

2 grown sons, 1 grown step-son

Last DDay, March 19, 2013 after a few weeks of TT- trying to have a new marriage after almost 35 years.
No more chances.


Posts: 56 | Registered: Aug 2013
LA44
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really hate to say this, but I'm going to for honesty's sake...

That's fine Rocky Mtn., you can say it. I can't even imagine him calling her as he has stated time and again that he is happy this is done and over (meaning, there is NC). Only in rare instances would they need to talk professionally and he said he would ask his dad to do that in his place should that come up. His dad has agreed.

When her # showed up on his phone it was as an, "Unknown Caller" not as her name as he deleted her from his contacts back in Dec. as I watched. This was of some relief to me.

As I understand from a friend, pocket dialing happens when you (meaning, you who is holding the phone)dial the last persona called or when you are on someone's speed dial and hit that initial. I have repeatedly - but not meant too - pocket dialed the golf course as my H has it on speed dial. I am sure all phones are different but this is the case with our phones (we use BB).

Do I think she intended to call him? I do. I think it was her last hour at the conference, she was pissed off at him especially bc there I was in a place she imagined herself and it was her way of sticking it to him. The night before that she and her friend saw us, spoke to each other and then within moments walked right behind us nearly brushing him as they did. There were two other routes they could have used. I think it was her way of saying she was ticked and "this is my turf" kind of thing.

In any event, he said he used the words, "If this was an accident...." bc the only other option it could be was intentional and he wanted her to know that either way, he needs to be removed.

It was just one more thing to deal with and after 4 days of it, I was ready to leave.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2590 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
LA44
♀ 38384
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh and scuba chick she was not talking about us - she was talking to someone about something they said to a co-worker and warning them about "karma".

How ironic!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2590 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


When I pocket dial people, it is almost always because they are on my recent calls list. It usually calls the last person I intentionally called. Not because of speed dial. I know this is the case for a lot of people. You don't think she tried to call him or vice versa during golfing, do you?

When I have to put my iPhone in my front pocket, my fat thighs will activate Siri and I have attempted to (unknowingly) facetime with people from all over my address book. I don't know how it chooses, but I know it was with someone I hadn't called in at least a year every time.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
brooke4
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For what it's worth. My H has a blackberry which doubles for both work and personal use (all the phone numbers in the company directory are loaded in it) and I have personally seen it pocket dial unbelievably random people--people he has literally never called before.


Me: BS, 40, Him: WS 41
Married: 15 years
3 children
D-Day: 10/2005

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Feb 2007
LA44
♀ 38384
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for your notes - looks like anything can happen at any time.

Amazing timing tho!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2590 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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