Since my A I have not spoken to my in-laws...the only time I have seen them is when I drop our DD off at their house once a week, but it is always a quick thing and my MIL never really says anything to me.
I know they are very hurt and angry by my actions and accept this. My MIL is especially angry and has pressured my BH into divorcing me....he finally got so sick of her forcing her opinions on him he stopped talking about it to her. My FIL is also upset but has been supportive of my BH.
My BH also has an older sister who has been very supportive of him and his decisions. She and I have always gotten along well, and right after D Day she actually sent ME a text asking how I was doing, which I think says a lot about her character.
Last week I finally confronted them all. I spoke to my SIL first (she is less intimidating) and then went to speak to his parents. It went better than I thought it would go....his father told me he respects the fact that I went and spoke to them and was glad I did it.
I know they aren't going to forgive me overnight and it's going to take time. But my concern is that (mainly my MIL) still doesn't accept that my BH and I are together and trying to R. She keeps doing things that make me feel like she is trying to make a point that she doesn't like me or want me in the family. I understand why she doesn't like me, but still want to realize that I am still with her son and am not planning on going anywhere. My biggest concern is for our DD, who is only four and doesn't understand what is going on....but eventually she is going to start to think it's strange that only she and daddy go to Grammy and Pepes house for dinner, and Mommy never goes..that or my BH and our DD will go off with them for the day and I am never invited.
I tried to bring this up with my BH but he thinks I am being crazy.
I am just wondering what experiences other BS have had with their in-laws and if you have been in a similar position, how did you deal with it?